Re: Pakistan - Long term stay and marrige!
In many cases the foreign raised guy or girl may not have had much of a choice because their parents may have dragged them/emotionally blackmailed them into marrying someone from Pakistan. In many cases it is the preference of the parents, not the kids.
I agree that there are big differences between girls raised here and there. I personally prefer that my daughters all get married to guys from here, for example, my girls, and most of their desi friends from here are used to wearing proper hijab, going to the masjid every week for prayers, being involved in volunteer work, etc., whereas when we arrive in Pakistan the first thing their daadi says is to remove the hijab and wear a dupatta and tight salwar kameez instead, so that they can be fashionable and get good rishtas. Also, girls who were raised here just are not prepared for the amount of backbiting and other family politics that go on there.
I respectfully disagree that western-raised girls don't get good rishtas from Pakistan, my daughters started getting proposals when they were still in elementary school (of the 'let's have an understanding) type. My husband has insulted many family members, including his own sister, by refusing them all. The last time my son went alone my SIL tried to get him engaged to her daughter, and these are people with the connections to have pretty much whatever they want in Pakistan.
THANK YOU FOR UR RESPONSE
IST OF ALL I MUST CONGRAGULATE U FOR GROOMING UR KIDS IN NICE ISLAMIC MANNER AND NOT BECOMING PSEDUO WESTERNIZED
AND I ALSO AGREE WITH MUCH OF UR VIEWS
BUT JUST FEW PIONTS
NOW KIDS HAVE TO EDUCATE AND TELL THEIR PARENTS THAT COMPATIBLE MATCH IS WHAT IS REQUIRED FOR LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP AND I DO AGREE THAT THERE MAY BI EMOTIONAL PRESSURE ON THEM
ABT POLITICS AND BACKBITING IN PAKISTAN I DO AGREE AND THATS A THINGS THAT NEEDS EDUCATION AND LITERACY RATE IS GROWING EVERY DAY IN PAKISTAN AND IF A WESTERN BORN GAL IS MARRIED IN PAKISTAN AND SHE STAYS IN PAKISTAN THATS I THINK IS THE HARDEST THING SHE HAS TO FACE
I NEVER SAID THAT WESTERN GALS DONT GET GUD RISTHAS IN PAKISTAN WHAT I WAS SAYING THAT MAJORITY OF THEM THAT THEY GET ARE USUALLY NOT BASED ON SINCERITY LIKE U URSELF ARE TELLING THAT U WANT UR KIDS TO MARRY AT A PLACE WHERE THEY R GROOMED(A VERY SENSIBLE APPROACH) SO THIS IS A THING THAT GOES SAME FOR SENSIBLE FAMILIES IN PAKISTAN THAT THEY WANT PAKISTANI GAL FOR PAKISTANI GROOMED MALES AND NOT THE WESTERN ONE AS U URSELF AGREED THAT THERE IS ALOT OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BOTH AND
Final word is that
there is nothing as absolute meaning u can never generalize any thing like example
i can never say all pakistani gals are good also i
can never say that all western gals are bad like i always says
Gud and bad people are every where including pakistan