Cup size is not the be all and end all in a relationship. You can have a good sex life irrespect of the girls cup size, and as some have mentioned she would put on a bit of weight in the future. Now having said that in an ideal world if you can get a size C or D then it would be better than an A or B, thats just my personal preferance. I prefer something that I can grab onto. Cup size in an important part of the sex appeal of a woman. However the final decision I would always base on someones's personality.
I agree with Fraudia, as much as we girls want to deny it, phyical attributes are an imporatant part of a relationship. They are the first thing we notice about a person, it is only afterwards we get to know a person. There must be physical attraction on some level to make things work. Yes, spiritual attraction, respecta and friendship all play a part in the longer term but in the inital stages there must be attraction and chemistry on a basic level.
People will often say that one should not care about what is outside but what is inside that matters. Its true. That is the way the world should be. But it isn't.
We are only illusioning ourselfs is we believe that looks are not an important part of relationships/dating. Looks never matter when you already like the look of someone and find them acceptably attractive. Looks really only matter when you are not attracted to someone ohysically.
Yaar actually desi people care a lot about their partner's looks. Even second generation desies have this dilemma. In this respect i highly applaud westerners ( Europeans and Americans) they dont go for mere looks etc.
I have seen blondes with blacks......hispanics with blacks etc etc.
I am sure if u ask a Desi Pakistani ( first or second generation) to marry a Black lad.......she will.....say a big NOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I wont marry a Kalaa.....
Desies are bit too much obsessed with looks n color.
say what?
first of all looks and image is extremely important here, go chck the party scene at a uni or hghschool an du will find out for yourself. teh fact that they can go with ppl from diff races is a whole diff issue, it has to dow ith accepting other races and not looks.
and where have u been hiding, not seen any desis girls with black guys? it was all the rage in London a few years back, and then was a big thing in Us for sometime.
the reason behind the looks thingy is their psychology . i have seen people who are complexed just b/e of their looks and apparently they don't treat others well ..
if the hubby is not as cute as the wife he starts doubting her etc.. so people mostly prefer people who are not much as complexed .
I agree with the person who said that Pakistani women care too much about their face and hair, and consequently less about their bodies.
People who try to match-make assume that as long as the girl is not overly fat she is OK. They fail to realise that guys actually care about body shape aswell.
From my personal experience of relatives trying to fix me up (which they are contanly trying to do) they show me a picture of a headshot and expect me to make a decision there and then as to whether i think the girl in question is attractive!
And the way that women in Pakistan apply make-up to their face is ridiculous. I have no problems with the skin tone of a women; dark skinned women can be just as attractive as fair skinned. But for some reason they fail to realise this in Pakistan. No, you see, dark skin is evil. So what is their solution to this? Layers and layers of foundation slapped on to their mugs, regardless of the fact that it is in stark contrast to their necks and makes them look like a Michael Jackson wannabe.
well ppl who ate gonna be jealous and not trusting ate going to be that way whether their spouse looks like a supermodel or the before picture in some commercial. there are ppl and I know atleast some personally where the husband gets all upset is his wie tries to dress up nicely. Thats a whole different dimagh a fatoor and keera
Moral of the story: Girls don't dress up to please people (as they are never going to be, no matter what you do) but do so to please yourself, to make you feel better/good about yourself!!!
Because of the way the marriage system in Pakistan works. More often than not, the first factor that the grooms side take into account is looks. If the girl is not upto the guys or families standard she is unworthy.
From my POV, if the system was less daunting and slightly more informal then it would be easier for both the guy and girl to get to know each other, without the pressures that are usually present.
first of all lets seperate preferences from obsession. while there are many ppl who are actually obsessed with looks, vast majority is preferences, preferences that are basically taught by our own culture and society, our movies, music, poetry, literature.. why do we act surprised that this culturally indoctrined standard of beauty then starts showing up in people’s preferences for a spouse?
