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I think paki girls should go for any man they can get. God knows good rishtas are in short supply and competition is tough.
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Surprising answer from you. Or are you being sarcastic? 
Waisey, I’m not gonna go out of my way to avoid desis. Great desi guy comes along, kewl :k: Like i said I don’t hate desi guys. But I’m open to marrying a white Muslim, if I ever meet one 
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Sara, 3 guesses :p
LI, I don't know anyone I hate so much.
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Lol I really don’t know 
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My twopenceworth regarding the original question and it applies to girls and boys who of pak origin brought up outside of Paks.
they have two cultures
one pak and one from the country they are living.
so for arguments sake uk born.
so they have 50% (ish) pak culture and 50%(ish) uk culture
if a computor was to match them with a partner
I guess the'd be matched with somebody who like them is 50%pak and 50% uk
however the majority of parents would match them with 100% pak fom pak
this isnt too much of a prob because at least the girl is 50%pak and so there is 50%compatibilty
If a girl married a 50% arab and 50% uk chap they would still share 50 percent of their culture..... the other 50% they will have to work out like in any other marriage.
would it be much different from marrying a 100% pak chap
I live in London and have found that people who have gone back/reverted to Islam are more open to their daughters or sisters marrying a convert/revert of another race,
and quite a few openly looking for their sis to marry a convert.
I have to say here in all honesty.... not seen many who have chosen african, but I suppose that is a whole new story.
Amongst the more traditional families, its more acceptable for a son to marry a non pak than the girl.
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^ Hmmmm...inneresting....
I don't think it's very realistic for suchmarriages, (50 %/100 % ) to work out, but then again what marriage is free of conflict and complications?? I still think it's easier for guys to break out than it is for girls, and I'm wondering WHY it isn't "allowed"....
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its not allowed because girl are more restricted that bwoys, their movements/ friends etc are monitered and evaluated more than their brothers and they tend not to nurture the kind of friendships with "gora" byoys because they cannot offer what these boys generally want... I do NOT want to make sweeping statements here.
this culture is evolving and young pak men are getting married to "whiter" women (perhaps its better to say non -pak women )and as the news of each marriage seeps into the minds of each member of the community its not something they consider newsworthy anymore.... happens all the time
its not as shocking to parents because Mr Mohammeds son from down the road, got married and his wife is still with him etc... its not frightening any more.
Now for the girls..... We are still in the stage of say about twenty years ago with girls........... the more pioneer girls that marry out, the less of a problem it will be.
Its just a matter of changing a mindset and Im afraid that takes time and
it takes a few martyrs!
the sikh and hindu community girls have advanced the muslim girls in this particular issue by at least ten years............ they had these issues too.
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Long Live Israel.
Your such a jackass, do you really think saying long live israel bothers me? Get real at the end of the day Israel hates ALL Muslims, so wake ur sorry ass up. you sorry excuse for a human being.
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People who have a problem with marrying outside their culture are the ones who know they cant and know that their parents ALWAYS make their choices for them!
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in our culture thats called being respectful and obedient. i dont think i could ever be happy without my parents’ blessings. we put our parents in highest regard n above everything else. if that means in ur culture to be something backwards then yes, we are proud to be backwards.
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Hey do what you want and I will do what I want with the support of MY family. Because you see with me I have a choice in EVERYTHING!
You keep telling yourself that “your culture” is the right one.
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There's a fine line between being obedient and respectful and letting someone run your life. I love my parents more than anything and i don't think I could truly be happy if they disapproved of one of the biggest decisions of my life. But at the same time I don't think kids should have to sacrifice their personal happiness for thier parents, and the question of "parents or [something else]" should never have to come up....The Quran says for us to obey our parents unless they are pushing us to do something unIslamic (such as a forced marriage)..
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^ agreed. forcing anyone to do anything is wrong even islamically. but to disrespect or hurt them for some guy who u met jumma jumma ath din pehlay.. just doesnt make sense.
maj: hey kudos to u if u r family is happy with what u r doing. what i say about arab culture is from my experience. having lived in middle east myself i know the kind of 'culture' arabs have. LI has summed most of it n i agree with him.
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^ hey thats all good, you have your experience and I've had mine. However, if I treat all my experiences the same then I would be one lonely person.
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if not being friends with an arab is being lonely.. than i prefer to be lonely.
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^ its ok I feel teh same about u :)
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good then.
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i hate it when people listen to thier parents all the time, when will they learn to make thier own decisions. my parents already know im a bitch, and they cant make me do anything, and there used to it now, even though when my mom's mad at me she;s like whatever make your own decisions, just dont cry about them later!
anyone who tries to force you to marry someone doesnt deserve to be in your life.
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Sara listening to people who have raised you, cared for you and held your hand when you scraped your knee is not a bad thing. These are the only people who will take a bullet for you. Make your own decision - who said listening to your parents is not making your own decision? You do that. You decide whether to listen to them or not.
On topic of the subject, its pretty simple. Culture and tradition is not that major an issue if the people are understand and compromising. I have married friends from extremely distinct religious and ethnic backgrounds. They decide before hand and it works. As long as you are mature and know how to compromise it works.
Everybody is human in the end with the same needs and desires. Only thing i see as a problem in a marriage and kids is religion. That defines do's and dont's in many cases. That can be a root problem in many marriages.