Okay reading Amana’s thread about Pakis marrying non-Muslims, I got to read quite a few interesting responses. What I watn to know is: Why is it culturally unacceptable or frowned down upon for Paki women to marry non-Paki guys? The emphasis here is on **Paki **not Muslim. I’m well aware of the prohibitions for marrying non-Muslims, that is not what I am asking, so please do not bring religion into this.
Yes countless threads have been opened up about interracial relationships, but I’m curious :D. So …why?
aik waja jo ke sirf humaray ra'e hay, momkin hay ghalat ho.
pak main dosri shadi or talaq ke waqe'aat non-paki ki nisbat bohut kam hay. pak ke log aksar mushkil tareen halat main bhi koshish karte hain ke shadi qaym rahay. pak ke ilawa jin logon (musalman) se humara wasta raha hay malsan Arab, Africa, or malaysia ke log kaii shadiyan karte hain or in main se jin ko hum qareeb se jante hain kaii talaq bhi un ki zindagi ka hissa hain.
pak ki larkiyan/larke jiss mahool main pal kar barray hote hain humaray khayal main in main se koi bhi zehni toor par iss cheez ke li'ay tayar nahi hay, or na yeh tarbiyat ka hiisa hay. ghalban aik talaq hi in ko zinda dargor kar'nay ko kafi hay. na ke 3-4 shadiyan karne ke baad kisi goray ki rakhayl ban kar zindagi gozaray or khush ho ke chalao or khuch nahi gora to haat ayaa na.
akhiri jumlay ke liay mazirat qabool ho, shayd hum south africa ki muslman larki/larkon ki halat abhi tak huzam nahi kar pa rahay.
I know it's kinda looked down upon but one brave pakistani girl, born and brought up in USA - who turned her life around and became a hijabi, went to Jordan/Syria to study for a semester to learn more about Islam, recently got married to a guy of non-desi decent (handsome guy, and equally beautiful girl). She's very happy masha'Allah.
Because many Arabs are non-serious/non-comitted to their wives..most marry 3-4 times..& Pakistani families feel insecure in marrying their girls to Arabs...What other muslims in usa/uk can u think off????...Indonesian/Malaysians,a huge cultural clash...For Africans,Pakis hate blacks....Albanians,Turks,most are not practicing muslims...However Pakistani & Indian muslims do marry each other...
is that what you think , or is that what Azad said?
Whoever said it...good points...
Of course not all of those ppl will fit into those above categories, but yeah I understand what you're saying. People like that do exist, and i certainly understand the one about Albanian as I have come across many.
But what if the Albanian/Turk in question is a devout Muslim? Why should there still be any objections for paki girls marryin nonpakis?
If anyone is a good sensible personality & the concerned parties don't feel much of a cultural clash,then there shouldn't be much of an issue between that marriage...but still Pakistani families feel a bit insecure...you would even see differences in opinions in marriage between people from different parts of pakistan..like punjabis marrying Urdu speakings etc etc
It’s not as simple innocent cultural differences as in pak i.e. Punjabi Urdu speaking etc, or may be cultural differences outside pak mean the same. I don’t know …… Like in pak we say, we speak Punjabi and they speak urdu khair koi nat nahi akhir ko hum sub Pakistani hain. Out side pak it’s like we don’t do clubbing and ‘non-paki’ do khair koi bat nahi akhair ko hum sub musalman hain. Kia desi larkiyan waqee aqal se itnii paidal ho gaii hain keh in ko farq nazar nahi ata?? yaa koi farq raha hi nahi to nazar kia aay.
What? Do you think all foreigners are corrupt? Not possible. Pakistanis are not the only one with morals. In fact, I would argue that Pakistanis are the ones with less morals.
probably better than narrow-minded pakistanis who feel their kids are being immoral by, God forbid, not marrying another brown person.