Re: Paki women with non-Paki guys....
Sara listening to people who have raised you, cared for you and held your hand when you scraped your knee is not a bad thing. These are the only people who will take a bullet for you. Make your own decision - who said listening to your parents is not making your own decision? You do that. You decide whether to listen to them or not.
On topic of the subject, its pretty simple. Culture and tradition is not that major an issue if the people are understand and compromising. I have married friends from extremely distinct religious and ethnic backgrounds. They decide before hand and it works. As long as you are mature and know how to compromise it works.
Everybody is human in the end with the same needs and desires. Only thing i see as a problem in a marriage and kids is religion. That defines do's and dont's in many cases. That can be a root problem in many marriages.