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lead to something longterm? :-) isn't 2/3 yrs long term already?
If you can't tell what the other person is like within 4-8 weeks then you will never be able to know him/her. That much of a time is reasonable enough (if not long enough) to get to know someone and get out of the relationship without being a victim.
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Yea, but they still get into relationships all the time, but because of this stupid thinking lurking at the back of their head all the time, they don't know how to handle relationships, nor how to respect other people. For desis relationships are about sex and not comanionship. I agree with Sara, loosers.
I agree, and I also agree that to still get into relationship and then break up using this excuse is wrong.
Keep in mind, I am in no way supporting the examples given in the original post.
And as Fayz said, it's not only the boy's fault, the girl is at fault too, for believing such idiots.
Naughty How old are the boys and girls in your examples? That will explain a lot.
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I don't have a leg to stand on, hence I can't really stress what I am preaching because I am no saint either. So I'll leave it at that.
:Salute:
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Girls do the same...dont kid yourselves.
But I agree with this: **Paki boys in my area tend to have a reputation where they put their parents wishes first. **I'd rather fulfill my parents wishes then the girls' wishes.
Girl is in a "relationship" for fun also, I'd say only 10-20% are actually looking to get married. So most of the time, they get what they want.
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Whas gon happen 2 ur boyfriend? :D
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^ I dont have a boyfriend.
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She went out with a Paki for three years...he rang her one day and said they needed to break up becuase his fiance had arrived in the country lol...the gutless fool has since decided to get married and his parents have no idea that this girlfriend of his even existed...
Thats nearly as bad as this friend of mine...she was Sikh and was dating a Paki for two years...the boys brother came round and was like Amir got married yesterday so sorry...the best bit was that he followed by mentioning to my friend that he was single and available afterwhich he was told to f*** off...
Now she was Sikh so she should have known better...but the Turkish girl was Muslim...I know a Bengali girl who was dumped when the guys parents suggested he get married...again he didnt have the guts to mention to mummy and daddy that he had a bengali girlfriend...
I swear i only hear these complaints about Paki boys...im not suggesting that everyone or even very many people fall into this category...but i know no other people that have this level of cowardice...
Im sure mummy and daddy wont be that offended if you brought a Muslim girl home so why be such a p***y about things...its almost like your ashamed of your gal...
Paki boys in my area tend to have a reputation where they put their parents wishes first...and to some of you that may be great but to me its shameful especially when you have wasted 3 years of a girls life...
LOL no it's funny. Hey, at least they are saving their parents the headache, and such nice boys, actually getting married.
It would be worse if they stayed with thse hoes.
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I sure hope you’re being sarcastic by calling them nice boys.
How about they: save parents the headache, save girls heartache and save themselves from committing zinna by NOT GETTING INTO a relationship?
Do any of you ever consider that idea or is it just absolutey inconcievable for a guy to keep it n his pants before he marries?
Since shes’ a “hoe” in your opinion, she doesnt deserve any consideration? 
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Dating someone for 3 years and dumping her all of a sudden is a bit too extreme, agreed.
In some less extreme cases however it is still sometimes a struggle for a son to respect his parents wishes and at the same time marry the person he loves.
Usually love marriages happen after atleast some time of boy-girl dating in which they meet, get to know each other, fall in love and then eventually decide to get married. In most of these cases parents arent an issue because either the son doesnt give a crap about his parent's wishes or his parents simply dont interfere.
Now what does someone do who wants to have his parents approval yet marry the girl he likes. Does he set sight on a girl, get his parents approval and then ask her out? That would be kinda tedious wont it? I mean usually you'd want to spend some time with the person and get to know her before you take the matter up to your parents.
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So u broke my heart & lied to me? 
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I think parents should give their kids some space and trust them.
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I fully believe that parents have every right to make their feelings known on who their kids marry. But they also have to have faith in their child, that he or she can and will find a decent person.
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Sara in those guys' defense, since they are not here to defend themselves: We don't know the situation and under what circumstances they "dumped" these girls.
Again, if it's their fault and they dumped them just because they felt like it, then it's wrong and I am still not justifying it.
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I know guys lie all the time but "oh, i got fooled" is not an excuse, it's your own fault as well.
totally agree
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except the fact…i mean some girls are jus stupid…
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Shikra
Ok the sikh girl was 18...her boyfriend was 23...the turkish girl was 25...her boyfriend was 22...
Now fair enough there are generally two sides to every story...but this seems quite black and white...
Neither girl knew what was going on...and you cant blame people for that...3 years is a long time...the girl assumes that she has built that trust and love and surely doesnt assume that her boyfriend has got a hidden fiance...
In the sikh girls case she should know better...there was never hope for a future but that doesnt make the manner of the breakup any better...her boyfriend didnt even have the guts to tell her he got married...
The turkish girl thought she might get married to the guy...it was serious...but obviously he wasnt...you cant blame the girls for guys being dicks...
And as for the mummy making threats...i wouldnt respect my mother if she did something stupid like that so i know where my leanings would be...you stand on the side of justice...and whats correct...
DesolateChocolate
I guess these pakis like yourself saw these girls as hos...hence the lack of consideration, repsect or courtesy towards them...
Afridi786
Agreed that girls look for fun too...thats all good...but 2 and 3 yr relationships arent just for fun are they...if you want to have fun then you dont tie yourself down...both parties have to know the deal...if we're gonna f**k then cool...if we;re gonna try and make something out of it...then thats cool as long as both sets know that...
Nia
I didnt suggest all pakis do it...i suggested that only pakis do it...
Dushwari
Errrm...what exactly have i owned up to lol???...and sorry i dont understand your point...somethings only unfair if one party is being mistreated...if both parties agree to something then it can hardly be described as unfair...
Fayz
Bro whole point is that for the girls they were committed and the boys violated that...the sikh should know she is wasting her time...but for the turkish girl...3 years suggests that it is committed and is going somewhere...
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So one of the girl was 18 and her boyfriend was 23. May be the boy's parents were asking (forcing) him to get married but the girl was too young to get married (education, personal reasons). The boy should've been mature enough to handle the situation but unfortunately he wasn't. The boy was immature and the girl was probably young and innocent. Again, what he did was still wrong.
In the other case, the girl was 25 but the boyfriend was 22. I am sorry but I have to say that the girl was at fault too. She's 3 years older than the boy, hence probably maturer. Second, the boy in this case may be too young to marry (education, career etc.). He may have talked to his parents but as most desi parents want the girl younger than the boy, they may have refused. Again, what he did was still unacceptable but in this situation the girl was at fault too.
These are my opinions, and again, I can't say much until I hear both sides of the story. You are right about how girls tend to trust and see the future in 3 years, but they've got to be realistic and should've started asking the boys to take actions and start talking to their parents. If they refused or hesitated, they would've known that they are not the right match for them.
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tauba tauba....(im not one of those type of men...i wanna get married...then after she tells me to get married again i will get married again..and i think 2 wives at the same time is enough...depends if i can handle the first one lol)
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Ahh- this brings back memories - my husband’s mother spent a whole year before our marriage threatening to have a heart attack, and actually faking one. Then she was going to starve herself to death, but still doesn’t look as though she’s missed many meals. Fifteen years later, and she is still mash-Allah one of the healthiest ladies I know. It is incredibly unfair of parents to resort to these theatrics to blackmail their children, and how many children will actually stand up and demand their rights when faced with this. 
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naughty by nature, why you have friends all around you who happen to have Paki bfs and why didnt you advised them when there were in relationship rather than after?
but its true many Pakistanis consider gf as time pass and not worthy of marrying so thats why they dont even mention that to parents cause they are not even serious about them at first place.
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Shikra
I agree that actions should have been taken to talk to the parents...the turkish girl knew everyone except the mum and dad it seems...what she told me today...iv not known her long...is that he said he wanted to marry her...she should have then asked him to take steps...however one thing she told me was crazy...when the mystery fiance turned up he suggested to this girl that he'd have a secret nikkah with her and have a nikkah with the pakistani girl to please his parents...thankfully its not something the girl ever considered...but i gotta say that is audacious to say the least...
ShakKills
Bro i mentioned two main examples..i have more than two friends...and 1 of those girls is one im looking to deal with not have as a friend...
And as for the paki thing about having a timepass...thats fine as long as both parties are cool with that...a lot of girls are fine with keeping things a sex thing...and if thats the case then their is no issue...the issue arises when there is deceit...you promise a relationship to a girl then you get married to someone else...
By all means get married...but make sure your timepasses know they are timepasses...
Amana
Shameful of his mother...but there is a real positive in your story...the guy didnt buy into it and did marry you...im glad to know he did stand up to his parents and isnt a pussy...must make your relationship basis real strong...
If you dont mind me asking...why did the mother dislike you?