Lol there is a girl im linking at the moment…Turkish Cypriot girl…she had a story for me…and its one iv heard three times in the last 6 months…
She went out with a Paki for three years…he rang her one day and said they needed to break up becuase his fiance had arrived in the country lol…the gutless fool has since decided to get married and his parents have no idea that this girlfriend of his even existed…
Thats nearly as bad as this friend of mine…she was Sikh and was dating a Paki for two years…the boys brother came round and was like Amir got married yesterday so sorry…the best bit was that he followed by mentioning to my friend that he was single and available afterwhich he was told to f*** off…
Now she was Sikh so she should have known better…but the Turkish girl was Muslim…I know a Bengali girl who was dumped when the guys parents suggested he get married…again he didnt have the guts to mention to mummy and daddy that he had a bengali girlfriend…
I swear i only hear these complaints about Paki boys…im not suggesting that everyone or even very many people fall into this category…but i know no other people that have this level of cowardice…
Im sure mummy and daddy wont be that offended if you brought a Muslim girl home so why be such a p***y about things…its almost like your ashamed of your gal…
Paki boys in my area tend to have a reputation where they put their parents wishes first…and to some of you that may be great but to me its shameful especially when you have wasted 3 years of a girls life…
I am sorry i know bunch of Bengalis, Arabians, Irish, Turkish, Italian etc who are some real asses.. I would not even want to throw up on them...
So bad people exist in every society. I am sorry but that girl was stupid enough to believe that guy will fall for her. She should have known better, should have tested him or got to know him better. That particular guy was a jack who played her and she did get played...
stop blaming on all the Pakistani Boys. I know some of my friend who are simply amazing and i wont have problem even having them meet my parents..t hey are such nice people...
What pathetic when you see a MUSLIM doing stupid things like these.. .and they dont even realize how much they can hurt people....
There are tons of Pakistani Christians for those who dont know what the white part in our flag represent...[it doesnt represent kashmir "idiots"]
Everyone is getting all hyped up by listening to the girl's side of the story, has anyone heard the boy's version? What exactly did he have in mind and under what circumstances and why did he do this?
And then there are Pakistani guys (some not all) who ditch their fiancee’s for some non-muslim/desi girl friends That too after getting engaged of thier own accord.
Shikra, I dunno about you, but to me there’s no excuse for a guy just HIDING a fiance and dumping his girlfriend. I’ve known several guys who’ve done that, they hurt their fiances and their gfs and they were pretty coldhearted and uncaring about it.
Ira.. you’re a hundred times better off w/o that jerk
I agree, there's no excuse for hiding the truth about your fiance. But for Muslims (boys or girls), having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is wrong to start with. They should know better.
That still doens't give him the right to lead her on; and what if hte girl he's with (then dumps) isn't desi/Muslim?
I know alot of girls who will date only if they were going to marrry that guy and until awhile ago I felt the same way too but now that I know better, I'm not gonna date anyone, period.
Girls are girls, desi or non desi, muslims or non-muslims. They should all be treated the same, with respect and love. Not doubt in that. Having said that, I would still say, for Muslims, dating, having pre-marital relationships (b/f and g/f) is wrong.
I don't have a leg to stand on, hence I can't really stress what I am preaching because I am no saint either. So I'll leave it at that.
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Yea, but they still get into relationships all the time, but because of this stupid thinking lurking at the back of their head all the time, they don't know how to handle relationships, nor how to respect other people. For desis relationships are about sex and not comanionship. I agree with Sara, loosers.
I have heard that a lot of boys are engaged before they leave their homeland just because the parents donot want them to do *exactly *what these guys do go onto do.
And this is just my opinion, but I have noticed that a lot of guys who are "foreign-educated" come back and become these weirdos who take too many liberties with their words, their actions and the peoplearound them cut them slack for it. That is terrible too!
you are the first male, i have thus far read who ever would own up to the issue. living in denial is not good. for us girls, men only lose respect and trust when they act so rotten and hollow. so i find it commendable.
they need to grow up, they need to have their own sense of what they want in their long-term committed relationship, and also how they can balance their autonomy with an obedience expectation.
having a girl friend or a boy friend for intimacy is unethical, it is not fair to girls and if u think about it, it is not fair to boys and young men, themselves.
hope is that Pakistani young men come to senses and be honest to their own selves and to the women they be friend for shelfish reasons.
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Lol there is a girl im linking at the moment...Turkish Cypriot girl...she had a story for me...and its one iv heard three times in the last 6 months...
Fayz, you know people do lie. They will tell you anything to be with you. How do you know thier intentions arent right, when they constantly tell you they are totally committed to you, etc etc?
In her examples, the Cypriot girl was with the desi for 3 yrs and Sikh girl was friends for 2 yrs. If girls buy everything that's dished out to them for that long of a period then I think girls have bigger personal issues to deal with.
I know guys lie all the time but "oh, i got fooled" is not an excuse, it's your own fault as well.
People will lie, period. You tell someone you care for her, and that she’s the one, and then a fwe weeks later say “oh I never said that”..when he says that, why shuld she think “oh he’s lying, i don’t believe him?”
If a guy said he loved her and she thought he was BSing, wudn’t u think she had low self esteem or somethiN??
I suppose in other cultures, you dont really break a relationship just because your parents picked a fiance for you. Or rather your parents dont pick anyone for you, you do it yourself. Maybe the girls were under an impression that this could lead to something long term (isnt that what most but not all western relationships are like?).
Although i do agree that mostly women are very gullible. They will pretend things are ok and find excuses for his behaviour even if the signs are glaring at them that he is going to be leaving.
That too after getting engaged of thier own accord. 
you’re a hundred times better off w/o that jerk