Pain of love

[GlobalGal]

Re: Pain of love

@IndiGo_Rain

I am no stranger to heartache of this variety. But this thread: oh my goodness gracious! Even if OP is trying to move on from this guy, this thread won’t let her forget him with its analysis on how to determine whether the feelings were ‘sacha pyaar’ or anything less than that, or its analysis on how the guy must be faring and what conscious or subconscious emotional factors make it easier or harder to move on. I don’t think this is helpful. If anything, it brings her attention back to this guy and keeps it there.

The partial solution to all problems is prayer and patience and then you have to apply effort. All the advising in the world is not going to help until you firmly decide to take control and do something. As I suggested to you before, express your concerns to either a grandparent or an aunt or uncle who can then talk to your parents. I’ve, MashaAllah se, seen this strategy work though I was skeptical at first. Get up and try, even if it’s just baby steps at first. If you think you’ve black magic on you, get up and find its cure. Remaining in a mopey state won’t accomplish anything.

By the way, are you saying that she should talk to her grandparents, aunt, or uncle so they can convince the parents to be more rational as in as long as he reverts willingly and submits willingly not for the sake of marriage and it shouldn’t matter if his whole family reverts or are you saying that she should get her grandparents, aunt, uncle involved so they can find a good muslim single guy so she can move on and look for a life partner in another guy? I initially thought you meant the latter because a marriage where the parents have to be convinced by so many people isn’t going to start out well.