Pain of love

[shaasavera]

Re: Pain of love

@IndiGo_Rain

Exactly, this life isn’t permanent. And if you truly believe there’s an after-life where you’ll be judged, then why the heck are you allowing yourself to waste away for this guy? Because it carries abundant sawab for you? This guy, who until I read GlobalGal’s post, I had no idea he was someone else’s husband. He may have made his marriage stronger if he had spent the time with his wife instead of with you. You don’t want to be the woman who wrecks another woman’s home or relationship. Don’t invite that karma in your life. You are 26, that is not ancient. There are plenty of women older than you who are surviving. You don’t need another single guy to fall back on in order to move on from this married dude. What you’re essentially saying is that you depend on a guy to get ahead in life, otherwise you are totally incapable or so severely handicapped that you can’t take a step forward on your own. Life doesn’t stop for anyone, not the single ones like you, not the divorced or widowed, not even the ones without children, not even those who have suffered worse tragedies. Yes, it may be easier if you had another guy to distract you from your pain, but it isn’t necessary. You don’t have another male distraction, so will you just mope around and put your life on hold? People can only tell you to get up and push forward, in the end it’s you who has to actually stand up and do it, even if it’s a few steps at a time.

Just saw this. I think GG may have accidentally misinterpreted some of the comments. The guy is single but OP and the guy are convincing each other to get married to others as a way to move on. I mentioned sacha pyar since they both know the situation, are distant from each other but are supporting each other to find someone new and move on.
I agree life moves on and I think OP can use all the suggestions to help with the moving on process but first I think it’s important she feels emotionally strong again.