Pain of love

shaasavera · June 14, 2014, 11:54pm

Re: Pain of love

I get what you mean. But my situation is different. I have prayed to God again and again to remove my love for him and his love for me in our hearts if we aren’t meant to be without any feeling of pain. Only God can do that. God alone can move hearts and put love and take love away from hearts if one asks God for it, considering it’s reasonable. If I don’t pray about it, I still have feelings for him. So let’s see if my feelings would go slowly by the help of Dua. If you sacrifice yourself, that was probably real love to because you don’t want to hurt him or anyone else in the family.
Thx yeh, I’ll think of it that way. Hope it helps me. Ok ill take a look at those stories.
Thx for the tips. Yeh, I feel like I have really did torture myself already. But what if after 2 months I talk to him again and I start to have feelings for him again? (If my current feelings go away in the first place that is).
Well I have already told him to get married and he told me too so considering we both know it’s impossible. I just feel suffocated knowing that I wont know how he is, if he’s ok, if he ate, if he sleeps on time, if his heart is happy, etc etc. So I told him to marry someone at least then my heart would be at peace knowing someone is there to care for him. I dont know if he’s gonna marry yet though. I know deep down it’ll kill me inside seeing him with someone else, but I’ll know at least he’s happy and someone will be by his side to take care of him. True, maybe it’s the best for the both of us. God does what’s best for all of us.

True.

I agree prayers and duas to get the love out of your hearts is the best option as well as everything else GG suggested.
Important to mention it was an emotional relationship based on love rather than superficial. True love is hard to get over and would be for him also. He wants you to move on and get married also yet expecting him to get married as well might not work out. Don’t tie your fortunes to what he does. What if he never marries? what if his system never gets back to normal? What if he is never truly happy with someone else..and never finds someone who cares for him? What if he does marry just so you marry but does not feel happy?
You can’t hold yourself responsible for all what happens to him. You have to consider yourself first as selfish as it sounds. I agree God does what is best for all of us.