Overwhelmed

[Mausam6]

Re: Overwhelmed

@Muzna

It sort of sounds like your in-laws have a way of doing things (i.e. they expect the girl’s side to foot the bill of the wedding just as they did for their own daughter) and they are expecting the same from you.

To be perfectly honest, I agree that some of these events really do NOT need to happen at all. They are unnecessary extravagances that are putting stress and strain on a relationship that is super-delicate to begin with.

Or you just need to quietly foot the bill and accept that the in-laws are doing nothing wrong.

Thanks, I read all the posts on here, and really took a few days to just disconnect from all the planning and think rationally. I sat down with my mom and showed her the responses here, so she has made a mental note on what to discuss with his mom when we meet, mainly your point on the unnecessary extravagances, because tbh its really stressful and Fiance and I are making sure none of us get stressed. We’re going to first enquire how many events his mom wants/needs and see what we can cut down on and gracefully ask for their consideration on splitting the cost.