Re: Overwhelmed
We don’t have a large amount in savings yet and are not looking into an expensive property at all, we’re still getting there & will be growing together, but this money was set aside for living after marriage, otherwise we’d be broke after the wedding.
We’re not asking for an extravagant wedding, but his family have expectations (based on previous casual convo’s with his elder sister that “humaare haan toh aise hota hai, meri shaadi mein main ne is designer se khareeda tha blah blah blah”. I somehow very politely stated I’d like the wedding festivities in just one country. Fiance is with me on that part.
As for savings; My existing savings are not going to be used for myself, that I have kept aside for my mother as a cushion because that was the purpose of my initial savings plan when I started it after dad passed away, I was 16 at the time so I wasn’t earning much at all at ym first job.
I had started saving a separate amount for house costs a year ago which was to be used as part of a down-payment initially for my mother and I to stabilize ourselves. This baat pakki was not pre-planned (it happened over the phone while i was on vacation) a couple of weeks ago, so that’s why my existing down payment savings are being added to his down payment savings. I don’t see how it’s ridiculous.
I don’t feel we’re breaking anyone’s backs by splitting the cost, when I earn 6 times less than his parents together, I’m pretty sure if I was earning that much I’d foot the entire bill if it doesnt make a dent in my income… To each their own. A friend of our recently had a grande wedding with all whistles and bells (love marriage) and the girls family paid nothing for any event/clothing/decor/travel (grooms family was just much more financially comfortable doing so).