So his parents split the cost on his sisters valima? And processed visas and travel for other relatives? I dont mean to sound rude but why cant they pay for their own functions you pay for your day and split the mehndi? What will your response be if they say you need to pay half the valima costs?!
As for dholkis etc these things are just normally small and intimate and shouldnt cost an arm and aleg! Regardless of if you hold it or tour khala. I wouldnt be so naive and just sit there and agree to all costs or say you are happy to foot the bill. Your mum n elders need to lay it out how it is.
At our wedding we paid for my hubbys sherwani and shoes only. Rest of the baraat day costs were by us. My nikaah was again my side paid but my taya abu and his wife who is also my massi covered that. My hubby paid for my ring shoes and outfit.
Mehndi was a joint day however i got married in winter and it snowed badly and only hubby and his parents and bro n bhabi made it as they were from a different city and did say they had around 80 guests. All my guests were there so we covered the cost for the mehndi.
valima they paid for it all. Inc my clothes jewellery shoes etc hubby paid for my shoes and jewels they paid for the gold.
Hubby paid for honeymoon.