Re: Overwhelmed
It’s such an awkward conversation 
So my in laws are in a diff country and fiance doesn’t want to have the cost convo over the phone with his parents so he hasn’t mentioned anything yet. He is flying out to the U.S. a week before I drive up there so that he can get a chance to discuss things with his mom, time will be of the essence since his mom is primarily there on a business trip. By the time I get to see her there is a possibility he may have spoken to her about splitting the cost or at least about future plans and that’s where I come in and maybe there could be a discussion of some sort. As for weddings in his family; his parents footed the entire bill for all events and all the outfits were by some indian designers like her engagement outfit was by Vikram Phadnis, her mehendi dress by Sabyasachi and Sana Safinaz for Nikkah and I’m not sure what her bridal and walima outfits were. Fiancés parents split costs on the walima as well for his older sister. That is overwhelming and unrealistic (unless I take a loan from the bank) for me if they expect me to do the same. Keep in mind his parents were by far more well off than the groom’s family. As for personality his mom is very quiet on the phone but from what I’ve heard she’s talkative in person, I’ve been told his dad let’s the mom make the decisions however he gets the final nay or yay. I’ll have to wait and see…till then i should save.
My fiancé does have savings but we wanted to use that and my savings for a down payment on a house. He has an income (he started a distribution company on a medium scale recently so there is revenue but profit margins are steadily increasing but not enough, on the side he flips in real estate which is dependent on hot months, and he changed his field so his income is not a lot now because he is back in school full time to complete required certifications in his new field, if/once that kicks off then he’ll continue with the side business he has as well, but that could take a year or so.