Are your fiances family contributing anything towards these functions? Dholkis aside. You said both sides want but it seems you have the burden of costs on you.?
@Muzna Hi! I am actually trying to cut costs by planning everything and being as organized as possible, it’s just driving me nuts bc I don’t know where to start. As for the mangni party both families want us to have a medium Sized party for around 150 ppl which means that we can’t host it at home which is what I originally wanted. Now they’re looking into a mini banquet hall and I’m looking at $40 per head which will land me in the $5000 range since it’s a hall they’ll want a mini stage and then other things just add on. I tried cutting down the list to 80 ppl by removing close friends which really is terrible of me. But it’s still hard to host 80 ppl at home because during picture time or rasams it gets crowded and pics don’t turn out well. They wanted a mangni bc we’ll have a 1.5 yr gap till the wedding. For the dholkis I’m going to host it at my Khalas or at a party room but I’ll still have cost of food and the usual so it’ll Def come up to $1500 (I have a huge family of 30+ first cousins) so I can’t invite one and not the other. For the mehendi of course that would be a hall as well since it won’t be segregated. And then shaadi, well you know how much that can cost. Eeek. InshaAllah with Allah’s help I will figure out a way. But to be honest my priority lies in not spending all my savings (whatever little I may have) bc I actually saved that money for my mother as a little cushion just in case, she doesn’t know obviously. I don’t have the heart to use that money for something I can live without. My mom’s happiness and wellbeing, that I can definitely not sacrifice. Hence my freak out lol but yes I know I don’t have to do all these things but it’s just that I’ve always dreamt of this and I know my mom has always envisioned how things would be prepped, that it’s too hard to just not have these events. I just don’t want any regrets. I know this sounds weird… sigh. I know not all dreams can come true either but I’d like to try to make it happen