Overseas Pakistani Syndrome

Shak · March 13, 2014, 7:43am

Re: Overseas Pakistani Syndrome

I’m not sure where “here” is, but here in The States, it’s considered a privilege to be awarded any sort of bereavement leave… and more times than not, it’s unpaid leave.. and when it is approved, it’s usually only 3 days. 5 if you need to travel, which, from what I’ve seen/ experienced, can be a long and drawn our process, where HR may require documents to prove the death & need to travel.
So let’s say you do get 5 days… out of 5 days, 1.5 days for travel there + 1.5 days back… that leaves 2 days. Adding being jetlagged and most likely in shock, I’m not sure how you’d handle the funeral/ after events. And then upon returning, back to work first thing the following day? Does ANY of that seem logical at all?

So depending on financial situations and obligations (both to your employer and their family), not everyone can just up and fly to the motherland.

And seriously, let’s not forget that airfare isnt just pocket change… :hinna:

Attending you parents’ funerals could be considered important based on society’s requirements, and of course morally… but Islamicly and logically, emotions only weigh in so much.

Just an example, because dropping $2k per person can def add up… If not for financial reasons, would you be ok with leaving your wife and children alone?

PS… This is in response to your post, but “you” isn’t only directed towards you.

I should have added the word ‘due to greed’ in my post to avoid confusion which is what I meant. As I said in my above post I have missed funerals too, so I doubt I’d be abusing myself in my posts.

Scenario 1: someone can’t go back, i.e. CC’s dad
Scenario 2: someone can go back but doesn’t himself so he can earn an extra grand when he’s loaded already.

Now with the author’s rant against NRPs and how we are so comfy in the West willing to do anything for $$$ in our ‘high paying jobs’ I perceived he was alluding to scenario 2. And when I said I was disgusted that is what I meant. I should have elaborated that. I hope its all clear now.