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The big entrance of your hosts with announcements. Not a fan.
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The garter thing...WHAT THE WHAT. How disturbing :/
Cringey stuff can be sweet like speeches and cheesy poses, if the couple enjoy themselves or they don't take themselves too seriously. Like, I saw a groom get down on one knee to put a ring on his wife, or silly poses on stages, if they enjoy it then it's not a big deal. I don't like overly-arrogant posers who think that they're modelling kachis for Armani or something.
Most cringey things I've seen, hmm. I see a lot of girls who won't stop dancing when everyone's bored. Like, I have a couple of friends who made everyone look at them dance for like 2 hours at a friends mehdni. When we told them to sit down, they said no the bride WANTS us to dance, she likes it while everyone looked at the floor and clapped their hands. Totally ruined the fun :/
Let 'em dance! The audience can find something else to do. :D
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I used to like going to weddings due to free food and er the ladies. But then they made them segregated.
Probably due to people like me. :/
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the doli entrance at a mehndi…enough already!
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brides who have ott makeup, full heavy jewelry and wear bhaari bhaari dresses at their mehndi…call me old fashioned, but i prefer the simple, barely any makeup and light but elegant dress…leave something for the shaadi and valima day
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choreographed, 2 hour long dance presentations, skits (yes skits!) and other bollywood-esque “performances”…whatever happened to free styling and just acting goofy…oh and singing…nobody sings wedding songs anymore
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speeches have already been mentioned, but I’ll add to it…nobody cares about your 15 closest friends getting up and hijacking the audience with their (“and one time, at band camp…”) remembrances and inside jokes..totally cringe worthy
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i’m not sure if anyone else has come across this, but it’s now “en vogue” in my city…brides and grooms and their dozen closest friends filming a scripted bollywood inspired movie about their “love story” and playing it at the wedding and/or valima…omg..hand me a knife already so I can stab myself in the eye
like slide shows weren’t bad enough…
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I thought segregated weddings weren't common.
I used to like going to weddings due to free food and er the ladies. But then they made them segregated.
Probably due to people like me. :/
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Itnay typos.
Grammar Nazi
Most I have been to were segregated 
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Where? 
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Okay, so I went to a mehndi where there was a cousin of the bride who had taken proper khattak dance lessons, put on a dance number. She danced to some old 1960s mujra song while wearing ghungroos. And of all people, her aunts, uncles, parents went up and did nichawar with money.
All I could think was - am I at a khottah and is she a nach-ne-wali 
And this was a Pakistani wedding.
I agree with sooooooooooo many of the comments above: first couple dance, interminable speeches which weren’t funny), picture slideshow, tacky Bollywood poses, Bollywood dance numbers - weddings are a production now - the joy of celebration seems to be sorely lacking in the oneupmanship.
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I used to like going to weddings due to free food and er the ladies. But then they made them segregated.
Probably due to people like me. :/
Start attending Afghan weddings. We don't do the segregation thing. :D
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I've never been to a segregated wedding
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Start attending Afghan weddings. We don't do the segregation thing. :D
Really? I thought Afghans would have segregation!
I've never been to a segregated wedding
Hmm, my two friends got married, someone in social circle got married and a couple of other people. All segregated. Only one that wasn't was my cousin's. But then again a lot of them were very religious.
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^ i guess we’re more besharam in amreeka 
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I didn’t like them. Sitting around men the whole time. I mean come on. 
They would have the bride and groom sit together for 20 odd minutes. The nikkah would be done separate too on the mic.
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Really? I thought Afghans would have segregation!
Hmm, my two friends got married, someone in social circle got married and a couple of other people. All segregated. Only one that wasn't was my cousin's. But then again a lot of them were very religious.
Nope, it's quite rare. But then again, men are quite protective of their daughters/sisters/female cousins and guys pretty much understand that if they pull anything they're practically asking to get murdered, so people tend to behave. :D
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Nope, it's quite rare. But then again, men are quite protective of their daughters/sisters/female cousins and the guys pretty much understand that if they pull anything they're practically asking to get murdered, so people tend to behave. :D
That's true as well. :D
Themed weddings/mehendi. It's exciting to go to a themed mehendi every once in a while, but it seems like every wedding is a big themed production these days. People are trying so hard to appear different, creative and fun that it's actually getting quite borning. The idea that all guests must turn up wearing costumes, and everyone must wear one particular colour, and that's it. Wear pistachio green kameez with lime green accent and grapefruit pink shalwaar and burnt orange duppata or don't bother showing up at our wedding at all.
I hate when people literally dictate what their guests should wear. I'm sorry I don't fancy wearing a purple outfit to your event, what are you going to do? Call police?
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Themed weddings/mehendi. It's exciting to go to a themed mehendi every once in a while, but it seems like every wedding is a big themed production these days. People are trying so hard to appear different, creative and fun that it's actually getting quite borning. The idea that all guests must turn up wearing costumes, and everyone must wear one particular colour, and that's it. Wear pistachio green kameez with lime green accent and grapefruit pink shalwaar and burnt orange duppata or don't bother showing up at our wedding at all.
I concur. Its annoying.
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I wouldn’t mind wearing a certain color but I’m not going to go crazy or stress out over it.
This reminds me of an incident a while back…at a party for a friend, we were all told to wear black. No big deal right? Except…the night before I went through my wardrobe and realized all my black clothes were really casual like sweats and tees etc. I’m just not a big fan of head to toe black! :halo: I go to so few events that there’s no way I’m going to one in SWEATS!) In a panic I texted the host (the bride’s friend) and told her I don’t have anything, she said “cant you just wear a teeshirt or something?”*
Excuse me? You get to shine in your channel and guchi and gimmy choo, and I have to wear sweats? Girl plz. snap snap snap
*(appropriate response should have been: “don’t worry about it, just come and have fun!”)
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wellllll if you kind of forget the roots of it (mujra etc), I’ve seen some of those old school mujra dances and costumes and they were really nothing compared to the typical bollywood dhoomka and naach that you see today. But I can imagine, if you know the history and connotation behind it, it would look creepy lol
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I am surprised that so many of you said mehndis these days don't involve singing and dholki. I have never been to a Pakistani mehndi (in pakistan or canada) where there wasn't any singing/dholki. That would definitely be strange.
And I agree about cheap, bollywood item numbers and mujra songs. Don't know how girls feel comfortable dancing on these songs in front of their dads/uncles/grandparents.
Shak, I've been to two segregated weddings in total. They were not fun. And it bugged me that even though the event was segregated, there were male servers and photographer on the female side.