i ve already said its not just DUPATTA for me...its whole thing.
shes paralyzed.....but where is her bemari when she doesnt care abt anything, itni kerwi baatein sunnatien hein mujhy, servants ko, apny hubby ko aur even apni bhoori saas ko.
my MIL traveled around the world<USA,UK,GERMANY,JAPAN,france,etc n not only few days but for months.bhurban is not a big place for her but in all her travelling She never ever asked her saas to go with them.....n my FIL is only son of her mother.
ok.....if u say so.then honestly tell ur husband wat u think im sure he knows wat his mother's attitude is like he ll understand
soni-imagine staying there n dealing with these issues for 14 months at a time now that aint easy so thats y im saying what i am, and besides no matter hw mean or nasty the MIL is at the end of the day she is older n shes ill n its not easy being ill n dependant, u try it
oh and regards to ur post where u mentioned that u are the only sister of 3 brothers well my nanand is also 1 sis of 3 bros n if she was to say any of the things u said like its his family n not mine and i dnt want to go out with them well u know what she would have got a slap across the face from me
is that what ur parents have taught u how to respect ur in-laws?well they should b ashamed as to the outcome
i think u dont have any right to slap anyone......
u r from another background how can u interfere in ur nand's problems...i would say...."stay within ur limits."
aur parents sab ko acha he sikhaty hein......u said that at frst u answered ur MIL back but i never ever said even a harsh word to any1 in my Inlaws wether there is my llil dewar , i ignored...koi baat nahi bacha hy. lakin jab kisi ke hakatein he gussa dilany wali hon to parents ke perhai hui patti yaad nahi rehti, aur us waqt yehi dil kerta hy k ya mer jao,ya maar do
soni-imagine staying there n dealing with these issues for 14 months at a time now that aint easy so thats y im saying what i am, and besides no matter hw mean or nasty the MIL is at the end of the day she is older n shes ill n its not easy being ill n dependant, u try it
itni hamdardi jatani aati hy, bari baatein banani aatein hein..to crare kerni thi nah apni MIL kee, chor ker kiun aa gai?
isn't that slightly selfish of you to think that by your in-laws going on holiday with you, you won't be able to enjoy it. Do you have to wear the duppata on your head? if not just pin it on your shoulders in a way that won't annoy you or get in your way.
Your MIL has health issues which may make her grouchy-deal with it, its not her fault she's in that situation. be a bit more empathetic..if you have to massage her legs what's the big deal, do it for a bit-it'll earn you browny points, plus you only have to do it for a bit after that when you go back the maid will do it. and won't your BIL help out.
oo and then when you get back talk to your husband and tell him you'd really like to go on holiday with just him sometime and then tell him it'll be nice to spend time with just him and no-one else etc and get him to take you somewhere a few months later, even if its just for the weekend. that way you get 2 holidays..one with your inlaws and one with just your husband.
by the by, i personally don't think its a good idea to say anything negative about your inlaws to your husband. if your gonna say something negative say it as a positive or in a good way. how would you like it if he said anything negative about yoour family. nice=nice.
my nanand is my nanand and i said if she was to say anything like this to ME about her hubbies family then i would do what i said our parents have taught us through thick nn thin u should always respect n love ur inlaws like ur own parents but unfortunately u dnt seem to do that, u need to start by thinking of them as your own family, kabhi kabhi bandha kuch ketha nhi hai but hawa main tension mehsus ho jathi hai, have u ever thought about that maybe they can feel the friction between u n them, u need to relax
oh n only once did i answer n voh b main chup kar gayi thii coz my hubby said
main chor k nhi ayi fortunate for me i was born n bred in uk so i can i chor them duhh. you obviously dnt seem to b able to talk to ur husband bout these things which is sad because right now hes the only one who can help u
judging by your posts in this and the other few threads, u seem to really hate ur in laws and any relatives/other families as a matter of fact. its sad that u are so bitter, I hope things will get better for u before u pass along these feelings to your own children. Im being serious here, all this negativity can only have an adverse effect on them.
I am still trying to understand what the problem is? It looks like you are living in joint family and these things are very common in joint family system. learn to enjoy it rather than crying foul.
sweetu ..u seriously need to stop stabbing sakoora with ur posts..i think she gets ur POV..all of us do..pleez stop now..now ur just being mean and no longer helpful ..
sweetu ..u seriously need to stop stabbing sakoora with ur posts..i think she gets ur POV..all of us do..pleez stop now..now ur just being mean and no longer helpful ..
sakoora, i do feel that your anger towards your mil and bil is somewhat justified. taali ek haath se nahi bajti and i am sure her bitterness has eventually gotten to you and so has her sickness. not everyone is mother teresa and patient enough to constantly deal with patients and take their crankiness either, but there's a certain respect that you should give to your mil considering she's your husband's mother. granted you are not obligated to serve her or your inlaws islamically but you have to respect the elders. after all, your kids are going to get married also and what goes around comes around. noone's telling you to be her slave but atleast don't be so bitter towards her. apni ma apni hi hoti hai and noone can take her place and that's what your saas means to your husband also. as for the bil, you need to tell him firmly when you need him to do something, being lenient would not do anything. you're the older bhabi, you have a right to tell him what he needs to do. the main solution in your situation is to communicate, you need to talk to your husband and get him involved.
our parents have taught us through thick nn thin u should always respect n love ur inlaws like ur own parents but unfortunately u dnt seem to do that, u need to start by thinking of them as your own family, kabhi kabhi bandha kuch ketha nhi hai but hawa main tension mehsus ho jathi hai, have u ever thought about that maybe they can feel the friction between u n them, u need to relax