my nanand is my nanand and i said if she was to say anything like this to ME about her hubbies family then i would do what i said 
our parents have taught us through thick nn thin u should always respect n love ur inlaws like ur own parents but unfortunately u dnt seem to do that, u need to start by thinking of them as your own family, kabhi kabhi bandha kuch ketha nhi hai but hawa main tension mehsus ho jathi hai, have u ever thought about that maybe they can feel the friction between u n them, u need to relax
oh n only once did i answer n voh b main chup kar gayi thii coz my hubby said
main chor k nhi ayi fortunate for me i was born n bred in uk so i can i chor them duhh. you obviously dnt seem to b able to talk to ur husband bout these things which is sad because right now hes the only one who can help u