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male infertility --------solution --------- divorce female infertility ------solution--------- second marriage
thats ridiculous! ever heard of adoption? you can also use a surrogate mother or go for infertility treatments. divorce between a couple who is otherwise perfect for each other but unable to concieve is the silliest thing ive ever heard of.
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Unfortunately, you are right. My husband and I really wanted to adopt at least one child, but realized that it just wouldn't be fair when we knew how he or she would be treated by his own grandparents.
thats extremely sad! there are so many children out there in need of a home and to not adopt one because of society/family.... thats ridiculous. but i can also see how hard it would be... tough call to make.
its so harsh to say kay family ka naam badnaam ho ga with an adopted child. last time i checked, adoption was a sunnah, wasn't it? i could be wrong, but regardless, if i want a kid and i can't have one, and I'M willing to go thru the stresses of adopting one with my hub (and its not an easy process, believe me. i've known couples who've done this and it is expensive and very emotionally draining), then no one on earth is going to stop me, and thankfully, i know my family would support me!
amana, it seems like you've had kids of your own, so maybe it was an easier choice for you to make, as opposed to an infertile couple? maybe thats also why you're family wouldn't be supportive? cos they'd wonder how come you didn't have another one naturally? i just can't believe that a family would not support its kids in that huge a decision....
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simple...its all the man's fault.
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whats all the man's fault?
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In the last two decades there is a Substantial Raise in Divorce Rate in Pakistan. What are causes lets discuss this.
^THIS
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thats a bit bitter... why do you say that?
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double post
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thats extremely sad! there are so many children out there in need of a home and to not adopt one because of society/family.... thats ridiculous. but i can also see how hard it would be... tough call to make.
its so harsh to say kay family ka naam badnaam ho ga with an adopted child. last time i checked, adoption was a sunnah, wasn't it? i could be wrong, but regardless, if i want a kid and i can't have one, and I'M willing to go thru the stresses of adopting one with my hub (and its not an easy process, believe me. i've known couples who've done this and it is expensive and very emotionally draining), then no one on earth is going to stop me, and thankfully, i know my family would support me!
amana, it seems like you've had kids of your own, so maybe it was an easier choice for you to make, as opposed to an infertile couple? maybe thats also why you're family wouldn't be supportive? cos they'd wonder how come you didn't have another one naturally? i just can't believe that a family would not support its kids in that huge a decision....
It was an easier decision because we had children, but it was something that we really wanted to do. I am adopted, and I think it gives so much to a child, especially when there are so many children all over the world who need a loving home. I see how hurt my children have been when we go to Pakistan and their cousins are obviously preferred over them, and didn't think it was fair to put another child through an even worse version. If we were childless then there is nothing in the world that would have stopped us.
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im sorry about your experience, amana :/ that really sucks that your kids are now going through it... sigh
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Most divorces take place due to lack of communication with each other, plus inferiorty complex.
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Everything in the world…
Glad u agree afridi :k:
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^^ lol… yeah, blame men… lerkian to farishta hain naaa 
I sympathize for all the predicaments uve been through.. .its good to see a person like yourself so strong and motivated… mashallah… and its quite an initiative to adopt a child, for sure there are tonns out there who lack support…
may Allah accept your efforts..
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thats ridiculous! ever heard of adoption? you can also use a surrogate mother or go for infertility treatments. divorce between a couple who is otherwise perfect for each other but unable to concieve is the silliest thing ive ever heard of.
what's written in my post is neither what i believe in, nor what i liked, my opinion just reflected the choices which most pakistani people / families consider "in general " in case of infertility ................
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im sure the divorce rate in pakistan and among pakistanis in general is going up, but does anyone have any actual statistics?? that would be really helpful
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you’re kidding, right sara? 
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yes i am
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whew! :p
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I have to add this story in here, because its something I recently was told by the wife, and it has left me, once again, doubtful of marriage and of muslim men.
He leaves her within a few months of their marriage, turns out he's a clinically depressed patient on meds, is telling her to leave her job because working for women is haraam when they clearly agreed that her work is fine before marriage. Not only that, but despite filing for divorce, he refuses to give her the haq mehar and is now filing a lawsuit in which he plans on taking 1/2 of her savings (including savings and assets from before the marriage). And do I need to mention how unIslamic all this grubbing over the wife's money is?
Yeah. Lets add this one:
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^^ 
… … i dunno whom should I have empathy for; the wife or the husband..
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I think Infertility does not matter. there is couple in my neighbour, they do not have childrens but living happily for the last seven years.
Secondly todays guys they sholud stop watching nudity, audlt material on the Internet, Cable, Dish etc etc, most of the problems will be solved automatically.
Stop dating before and after marriage. because this will cause sexual weaknesses in guys and when they will get marry many problems will arise.