In the last two decades there is a Substantial Raise in Divorce Rate in Pakistan. What are causes lets discuss this.
Accoeding to my knowledge there are few reasons behind this whole dilema.
1- High sexual expectations towards eachother before marriage.
2- Lack of Patience towards eachother if one partner has sexual defiency. (Male or Female)
3- Jahez
4- Tolerence towards eachother.
5- Lack of Sacrifice for eachother.
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here r few more:
6- forced marriages due to family pressure
7- too much of third party/ person influence ( unnecessary intruder)
8- cheating ( yes i mean extra -marital affair)
9- greed
10- lack of spousal respect
11- marriage at very early age ( < 20 years)
12- lack of tendency to compromise
13- lack of privacy ( in joint families)
14- too much difference in social status
15- emotional instability
16- jealousy towards spouse
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15--more women are not stuck because they cannot support themselves...
16--both parnters more confident that theyd ont have ot take the other spouse's crap
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I agree with u completely:k:
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Infertility...
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Abuse- verbal or physical (sometimes even sexual)
Cultural clash- one is born and bred in pakistan, the other in Western society... --->different values, morals and way of thinking
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20- sense of superiority towards spouse
21- hostility towards spouse- or- in laws
22- lack of interest in household , starting family , kids
23- highly career oriented women , who consider family as nothing
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It might also be a result of people finally realising that although divorce shouldn't be the answer to all marital problems, there are situations in which its the only answer. 30, 20, or even 10 years ago divorce was much more of a taboo topic then it is now, many people would stay in abusive or unhappy marriages because they didn't want to be labeled.
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As i see it there is only one solution and that is "Compromise and Sacrifice for Each Other"
Re: Our Girls and Guys and Divorce Rate in Pakistan.
As i see it there is only one solution and that is "Compromise and Sacrifice for Each Other"
While this is a nice thought, it's certainly not the answer to every solution. What if a husband is physically, verbally, or emotionally abusive? What if the wife is the abuser? What if other family members are constantly interfering in the relationship and the couple is unable to move past that? What if the couple should have never been married in the first place but were pushed into it?
Divorce is something which is hated by Allah, but it is allowed because there are situations where divorce is the only viable option. People who are in terrible relationships should divorce, both for their own benefit and that of their children. It is not beneficial to raise children in an unstable and abusive home.
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We can speculate and blame one party all we want, but nobody one can ever know the real reason behind a divorce except for the two parties involved.
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^^ yes, I am sure you are right… however, divorce is invigorating with no bounds these days… I’ve heard of cases where the couple got divorced after 3 days of consumating the marriage 
… and that sux..
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Infertility...
male infertility --------solution --------- divorce
female infertility ------solution--------- second marriage
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More than likely at least one of those parties was forced into the marriage by parents. We knew a guy who divorced his wife two days after the marriage. His mother had threatened all sorts of things if he didn’t marry her, so he did, but realized after the marriage that he just couldn’t go through with it. While I feel sorry for him, he should have acted like a man and stood up for himself before the marriage, not after.
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Infertility ----- solution ------- adoption
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thats so primitive…for them divore was inevitable, so the sooner the better..
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Infertility ----- solution ------- adoption
Infertility ----- solution ------- adoption -----> more problems... :).. its not well catered by all khandaanz..... adoption "khandaan kaa naaam budnaaam ker deti hai"
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Infertility ----- solution ------- adoption -----> more problems... :).. its not well catered by all khandaanz..... adoption "khandaan kaa naaam budnaaam ker deti hai"
Unfortunately, you are right. My husband and I really wanted to adopt at least one child, but realized that it just wouldn't be fair when we knew how he or she would be treated by his own grandparents.
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^^ so, cant get divorced, wont allow a second marriage, cant adopt… to phir kerain kya??
I think it HAS to be either one of these three… so I guess if someome chooses one of the three no one cant blame him 