Opposites attract?

system · December 1, 2004, 9:14pm

Do they?
For example, if you are a hyper, outgoing, active person..would you like to see similar traits in your partner? Or would you rather see someone who will bring a calming influence to your life.
I somehow disagree with the opposites attract theory…What do you think?

Miss_Mohabbat · December 1, 2004, 9:19pm

i really should be working but im bored...

i think opposites attract and the relationship will work only if people are willing to compromise. Id rather have someone who will disagree with me and allow me to see things from their point of view.

Rani_Pakistani · December 1, 2004, 9:21pm

im a very hyper…outgoing…active and talkative person n i wud like to see similar traits in my partner also :p..
dun wanna marry some1 whoz gonna bore me …
pata chala mein usse baatein kiye jaari hoon n hez like

thats like my worst nightmare …

i wud like someone hyper n talkative
n fun…
someone active:D
who can play soccer with me everyday

system · December 1, 2004, 9:25pm

^ I rest my case

btw Mohabbat, how u doin oh back to the topic…well, compromise is not really a positive word. You are giving up on something to gain something that’s your second choice. Why in the world would anyone be willing to invest time in disagreements, conflicts when a compatible partner is more suited.

Miss_Mohabbat · December 1, 2004, 9:30pm

im not willing to give up, im willing to learn and accept new things. i would love the idea of learning something i did not know before hand..anyway i love disagreements and conflicts, i dont need someone telling me im right all the time as i already know this :p

i like the idea of me teaching my husband new things and vice versa, how boring would another me be...thats not really a question..so don't answer...im not boring!

system · December 1, 2004, 9:41pm

We are quite opposite…
I hate conflicts..I love people who agree with me. You can also learn new things by exploring ideas that are of common interest…you make a team and go to the next level… instead of making a halfhearted attempt on something that’s your partner’s choice.
Disagreements could be spicy in the short term but quite annoying in the long term. Do you agree?
p.s. Another ‘you’ would be a blessing on GS. I don’t see how that would be boring even for yourself.

Minerva · December 1, 2004, 9:46pm

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Well, its better to deal with someone your type than a totally different person. For once, I agree with you Fayzzzz.

system · December 1, 2004, 9:51pm

i think it just happens.. a lot of times opposites do attract cus i think they bring stability to your life.. they fill in the gap that ur missing. Like a balancing act.. if that makes any sense.

I wouldnt limit attraction to just that though... it simply just happens whether u like it or not :)

ok i just read ur last post Fayz...

cant people with the same morals and values and ideals be totally different in nature? one can be a total chatterbox and the other a calm listener? they're opposites yeah but with the same goal... kinda..

Miss_Mohabbat · December 1, 2004, 9:51pm

bless…no i disagree with u mrs,

i like being challenged and i get bored with people too easily, having someone who is opposite to me is stimulation of the mind, i guess i want someone whom i think i have figured out and just when i have they surprise me by being unique and doing something i would never dream of doing. yeh its good to have common ground, but not too much.

P.S..erm…why u being nice to me chick? what have i done to u?

system · December 1, 2004, 9:51pm

Miss Minni…and you obviously know what I think of people who agree with me … yaay 5p.m. here…shuker hai! later

Muhabbat, I can respect your theory but it’s really hard to actually live it. :-). Why shouldn’t I be nice to you…consider yourself lucky

ch_and-be_ii · December 1, 2004, 9:58pm

opposites attract is a total crap theory in case of human relationships, maybe the difference is intriguing at first, but opposites are rarely compatible. I feel people with common interests have a better chemistry together..

or maybe not, I am not very clear about it.

Miss_Mohabbat · December 1, 2004, 10:02pm

ok mrs...i can respect ur theory too, each to their own

but, life is hard therefor living will be harder. i would like someone with the same morals and values as myself as i as a human have the bestest morals!! but i wouldnt want someone to share interests in everything i do..its like doctors marrying other doctors...i dont get that..

hayaa · December 1, 2004, 10:04pm

It's hard enough putting up with another person for the rest of your life, I suspect it may make things slightly easier if you shared similar views/goals/morals etc.

Mehnaz · December 1, 2004, 10:16pm

Of course opposites attract. Why do you think good girls always go for the bad boys?

system · December 1, 2004, 10:19pm

^ that was a classic!

i really dont know what opposite means anymore.. are we referring to someone with completely different morals and values.. or someone whose just a mute compared to a non-stop radio channel??

minah_pa · December 1, 2004, 10:35pm

I have to agree that I am also not sure what you were asking.

I am not good at planning ahead and my husband is excellent, so he plans long term, I take care of the things that pop-up. We are opposite that way and it works. I get angry easily and he doesn't, we are opposite that way and it is a pain in the neck, doesn't work, lol. I am good calculating budgets and sticking to them (ok - spending the money), he is great at saving, managing, and multiplying the excess money - opposites in a way, but stronger.

I guess if you know your strengths and weaknesses and marry someone who makes you stronger rather than makes you weaker, you do good.

I think the hard part is knowing and admiting that someone else does something better than you and being willing to give up that control.

Does this make sense? .............just worked about 10 hours and my brain is fried.....

M · December 2, 2004, 12:24am

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*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
Of course opposites attract. Why do you think good girls always go for the bad boys?
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Maybe they werent really 'good' to start off with.

Mehnaz · December 2, 2004, 12:28am

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*Originally posted by M: *

Maybe they werent really 'good' to start off with.
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Of course they are. Take the movie 'Grease' as your classic example. Sandra Dee is a good girl from the otherside of the tracks. She falls for the leather clad, greased up high school bum, John Travolta. If it happens in the movies, you know it happens in real life too. :p

Muslim_Queen · December 2, 2004, 12:53am

I think it all depends on the people involved in the relationship.Some people like their significant other half to have similar personality traits.However , others don’t.

Personally ,I don’t think I could ever live with a quiet, meek little man.Ok maybe those are not the right adjectives.

Destinee · December 2, 2004, 5:29am

I’d agree. I used to believe that you can’t live with someone who’s totally oppositve. But that philosophy wen’t :n: when I started to like someone who was totally opposite in a lot of matters and opinions. We do agrue A LOT about certain things coz our views are contradictory. I don’t know how I got to like that person eventhough I knew that he wasn’t the kind I’d get really close to. Opposite does attract at some point but maybe not for everyone.