I guess I would be included in what you term the “moral brigade.”
Assuming that you start talking to this girl and things develop to the point of a relationship…what next? Would you have the courage to commit to her if you have a serious interest? Or in the end, would you rather prefer to settle down with a desi girl?
I’m just confused as to what direction you this would go in? Are you just looking for a “good time”? Because, that seems wrong to me. And I wonder if that’s why you wanted the “moral brigade” to spare the thread.
Reading your post, it seems that you’re wanting to initiate something “more” than friendship with this girl. But what is your intention? Do you just want a good time with no strings attached (kinda messy in the workplace)?? Or would you be serious about getting to know this girl? I guess what I’m trying to ask is that are you deliberately wanting to initiate things with this girls on a purely temporary basis…or are you serious? If you’re not truly serious about her and if you’re only looking for a good time…have you considered the potential of one party being misled by the other? And let’s assume that things get messy…keep in mind that it can be awkward seeing the former love interest at work on a daily basis.
I’m not trying to kill your hopes here. I just think it’s good to also consider the negative aspects before starting something. Several times, people in the Life Forum have asked the general question, “**If a guy/girl KNOWS fully well in advance that he/she can’t commit to relationship…either due to future parental objection…or differences in culture…then why bother starting things in the first place?” **This is commonly seen among desis. And if one knows that there is no real direction or future to a situation…isn’t that like toying with the other person’s feelings?