If he was treating his ex with respect and was not being chummy with her then this is not the way to deal with this issue. Even if he was doing something naughty you do not create public scene at a party. There are more civilized ways of dealing with the issue in case that is the issue.
bhai larki to sakoon naheen aa raha. She upset about it.
ager meen is situation meen hota to ex ki esi-tesi kerta aur hubby sy larai kerta(I mean kerti)
She need to express her self so she could live in peace.
Just let your hubby know exactly how you feel about this and the appropriate way to behave with his ex. Issues like these should be addressed at the beginning of marriage so there are no surprises later!
bhai larki to sakoon naheen aa raha. She upset about it.
ager meen is situation meen hota to ex ki esi-tesi kerta aur hubby sy larai kerta(I mean kerti)
She need to express her self so she could live in peace.
If my wife ever does that I would understand it.
Larki abhee nadaan hay , na samajh hay , ahista ahista samaj aa ja-a gee. Agar larka bhee nadaan hoo-a tumharee tarah samajhdar na hoo-a toh party main museebat kharee ho ja-a gee.
I can't fit my self in your shoes, I am sure it won't fit.
im amazonian u will fit n even if you wont i ll chop ur fingers off dont mess with me rite now im really pissed off,y this thread became me me me. noone else had to deal with such issues
Read some Quran or listen to recitation.It calms you. I would suggest not saying anything to your husband at this monet as he may clam up after this incidence.Wait till you r logical again.
I think one should come clean before marriage. One should tell the would be husband or wife whether you have been nauthy or nice and start a new life with each other's full trust.Its bad and of course hurts if you come to know things about your spouse's past from other people after the marriage.
im amazonian u will fit n even if you wont i ll chop ur fingers off dont mess with me rite now im really pissed off,y this thread became me me me. noone else had to deal with such issues
Relax lady, we all have issues that we need to deal with... but only a handful who can post a thread about it on a public forum.
You need to quit crying and confront that SOB... but that is something you can't do and won't do. That is often a problem with insecure women. Come to think of it, of all the girls he knew, he ended up marrying YOU, so that should mean something... and should be enough to be able to get some break. OF course, you won't see that side of the issue because most Pakistani women are all about whining and crying when sh!t goes down and taking ownership of their man.
Relax lady, we all have issues that we need to deal with... but only a handful who can post a thread about it on a public forum.
You need to quit crying and confront that SOB... but that is something you can't do and won't do. That is often a problem with insecure women. Come to think of it, of all the girls he knew, he ended up marrying YOU, so that should mean something... and should be enough to be able to get some break. OF course, you won't see that side of the issue because most Pakistani women are all about whining and crying when sh!t goes down and taking ownership of their man.
:) u know wats wrong with pakistani men they do all the things in the world but get married to a girl that their mothers choose thats wat im mad about.im not insecure at all im just simply pissed off about his double standards if i wuld be doin even half of it im sure he wuld kill me
sweety if he is guse wala than id advise u not to bring it up again..at least not soon..itll just to lead to fights nd saying stuff u dont mean and then resentment..
another thing..DONT LISTEN to other ppl..they WANT to mess with ur head..and they WANT to ruin ur marriage so they can sit back nd watch the tamasha..
i know u must be furious right now..and its hard to not to fight but think about the long-term..
firstly, people shouldnt be telling u stories about ur husband's past. They should let u both live ur lives.. and ur personal business is not for them to discuss.. and at the end of the day, u should trust ur hubby more than any aira ghaira that comes along..
the past is the past... and u should concentrate on whats happening now and how u can make ur future better. If he had a gf or had gfs that was his past... he's married to u now and if he's being faithful, then thats all that should matter to u..
Jaan Leva, ur one to talk... i suppose if u found out ur wife had a past, u'd be completely ok with it? huh?
If he/she allows then its okay. If you don't take it seriously than its okay too.
I won't mind looking but be happy to see how involved he was and how much. what is past I don't care about that too.
Husband wife ko friend ki tarha hona chahyay aik dono kushada dil kay hon to bata saktay hain agar naheen to naheen batana chahyay apnay past ka larkioon ko khaas tor say.
main to bakhushi daikhna pasand karoon gi aur mana karnay pay bhi daikhoon gi chup kar is liaay kay me very curious.
Apnay baray main main bata bhi doon gi kay main kisi ko pasand karti thi. My love story.
Koi aisa bura kaam naheen kia jo chupana paray is liaay sub kuch bata doon gi. Shadi say pehlay bata doon gi. Jisnay jannay kay baad bhi karni ho gi to karay ga naheen karni ho gi to shadi hi naheen karay ga.
Baaz larkiaan bohat kuch kar jati hain apni izzat o abroo ki bhi hifazat naheen karti aur husband ko poori detail bhi bata dayteen hain phir husband to marta hai din raat usko jootay. Agar koi aisa karti bhi hai to husband ko itni ghari detail na bataaay. Yay senario hamaray bohat qareebi jannay walay main hota hai.
That lady is like shadi honay par bhi larkon say dosti karti hai aur susralion kay samnay boltay huway bhi shirm naheen ati yani unki shirm o haya hi mar jati hai.
Every man offers her to tea coffee and calls her. I don't like chuchundars and Chuchundaris.
Kum uz kum itni aql to her larki main honi chahyay kay apnay izzat o abroo ki hifazat karay aur agar naheen kar saki to husband ko naheen bataay warna din raat jootay khaay gi.
my advice is that a woman should not tell the about her past 2 her hubby,..
or otherwise its depends on relationship about the trust,.. if he wont mind it or is coolminded and think past is past and doesnt take it seriously then I guess its allright...
I guess a husbund prefer to hear the truth from the wifey isay phele kisi aur se patha challay.
the problem is ke saari zindagi warna larki ko tanay sunay ko millay gai if she tell the truth.
so think before you tell him/her about the past,... it can hurts, create problem or more misunderstanding,.. or everything can be normal again it depends on the relationship how strong it is.
Sari zindagi jootay khanay say to achcha hai kay na hi bataay.
But some are too baysharam they just don't care they even tell a single step who did what to her.......thats so stupid...........That lady was so budnam before marriage.
sweety if he is guse wala than id advise u not to bring it up again..at least not soon..itll just to lead to fights nd saying stuff u dont mean and then resentment..
another thing..DONT LISTEN to other ppl..they WANT to mess with ur head..and they WANT to ruin ur marriage so they can sit back nd watch the tamasha..
i know u must be furious right now..and its hard to not to fight but think about the long-term..
good luck..:)
firstly, people shouldnt be telling u stories about ur husband's past. They should let u both live ur lives.. and ur personal business is not for them to discuss.. and at the end of the day, u should trust ur hubby more than any aira ghaira that comes along..
the past is the past... and u should concentrate on whats happening now and how u can make ur future better. If he had a gf or had gfs that was his past... he's married to u now and if he's being faithful, then thats all that should matter to u..
Jaan Leva, ur one to talk... i suppose if u found out ur wife had a past, u'd be completely ok with it? huh?
girls thx for the advise really:) i know u all are making sense but tell me how can all of them be liers.people only talk when u give them a reason to.noone can be this creative to makeup stories like these if he was such a jackass to all of them he ll be a jackass to me too.i really hate men now.desis are such hypocrite
Give hubby a little room Samra .. dont ask him direct question .. the thing is .. you dont own his past, you share his present .. so as long as his present is a loyal one .. dont worry too much about his past ..
and about being nice .. if he was as nice or polite to some other girl (other than his Ex).. would that gesture be OK with u? If it was then maybe you are taking this whole thing to another level.
anyway, you've been married for few months only. DOnt let unneccessary doubts polute your mind
…Way to go girl:AID: