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Wait, what exactly is an open marriage?
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^ An open marriage is when husband and wife are open in their communication wit each other, discuss things out, learn about each other and grow old together getting closer with passage of time.
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I would echo RV's devil-advocated-sentiments. Also, the couple may not see sex as something necessarily intimate to be shared between two people forever and ever til death do them part. I'm supposing one or both people in the relationships are the promiscuous type and want their desire(s) to be fulfilled. For instance one person may not be open to some things or may not like to do it often and and so seeks for fulfillment outside the relationship which is their right to do as long as it's mutually agreed upon and out in the open w/ it (no pun intended).
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ohhhhhh that’s not the open I was thinking of 
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^ yes I knew that - but glass can be viewed half full, right?
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or neither one of what you think. the forums about giving opinions right? i just gave mine (whether its ignorant or enlightened)...if it offends you u can present a counter argument...if u dont care for it like you claim then ignore it n i promise the forum police cant make you reply.
Interesting that a lot of those ppl attacking your posts can't seem to..
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I think that a couple who are in open marriages usually have a set of ground rules which means that if they break those ground rules that they can go to divorce or something..
I don't see why a woman can't have 4 husbands if she wanted to.
although I don't know why would somebody want 4 wives or husbands... unless they are all quiet and hardworking xD
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why did I read the title as ‘Open Mortgages’
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The one which happened behind doors 
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Because you are looking to re-mortgage your property thesedays 
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halki phulki bhook main, halka phulka tak....
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I don't get them
Why do people have them?
Isn't one definition of marriage being committed to one person
The institution of marriage is not about a commitment to one person, it is all about raising a "family" and exercising the basic human instinct with the norms of a society as oppose to become slaves of libido.
In the case of Muslims these norms are derived from religion rather culture of waywardness.
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I think that a couple who are in open marriages usually have a set of ground rules which means that if they break those ground rules that they can go to divorce or something.. I don't see why a woman can't have 4 husbands if she wanted to.
although I don't know why would somebody want 4 wives or husbands... unless they are all quiet and hardworking xD
Tacit or otherwise, no relationship has ever existed with out the rules of engagement.
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Well isn't open marriage about having to have relationship outside marriage with no restrictions?. For instance, your wife can have sex with any man
she pleases..and husband can have sex with any woman he chooses to sleep with. Of course this is just an example of open marriage.
And normally if people practice this concept..then it is to seek thriller and excitement.
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unhindered thaka thak..........thats 'open' marriage.......
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^^
True to the moronic culture of licentiousness the society of liberals have learned to spin around the meanings of the words to call rape of piousness as "thriller and excitement"
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Open marriages happen all over, including in pakistan. I have heard the swinging lifestyle also happens and I know someone personally who witnessed it (long story). Anyways, I find open marriages sickening. Why the hell would I get turned on being with another man or knowing my husband has been with another woman? Just typing it pisses me off. I find it barbaric, tbh. If it works for you, great. I personally would never want to be involved physically with anyone except my husband and I know he wouldn't either.
I know there are couples who are "monogam-ish" which is basically a hall pass to sleep with someone if they are away on business trips/vacation. They do the deed and don't mention it but at the end of the day they are each other's primary partners. Then there are people who are full-fledged swingers who get turned on by seeing their primary partners with other people. And then there are people who have a cuckolding fetish (basically having their partner "cheat" on them) and they themselves dont sleep with anyone but just let their partners do so. Afterwards, the partner who is "cheating" comes home and dishes about everything she/he did and the person with that fetish gets turned on and they get it on again. Part of the thrill from this cuckolding fetish is the humiliation of getting the "sloppy seconds".
There are so many twisted things out there which my tiny mind cannot grasp. I'm just glad me and my SO have a sweet, genuine, sincere, loving, TRADITIONAL relationship with no fetishes involving threesomes, other people or interest of even going there shudders. There's a certain vibe in a relationship where the couple doesn't want anything but to be with each other. That kind of a relationship is sweet, genuine and pure and gets completely compromised when people start having these kinds of wants/needs. Urgh, I feel bad for those people that miss out on that. I know you can't help fetishes but it's just a pathetic fetish to have.
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Well it is ok to fantasize but doing it..would be streching far. Like i said, if a man has to take it..he needs to take one by one. For example, i fantasize about having two girls in bed with me. Does that mean, i will do it..well heck ya..but don't know if it is possible. My guilt is gonna kill me eh!. It's like forbidden fruit..hmm.
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^Right, but not all men fantasize about threesomes. If your wife/SO convinced you to hook-up with another woman because it turned her on, you probably would be tempted since it IS a fantasy of yours. Then there are guys who would not ever want to even think about another girl and would be insulted if their wife even suggested an arrangement of that nature.
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^o wow..you sound like my ex-girlfriend. Well, when i was in and since i was her first and vice versa. She would be like, "you don't think about any other girl with you..right???"
At that time..i said.."Oh no..i can't..it grosses me out" and all that bs. So ya, bs aside..my fantasy was exactly that..which i told her. Have i done two girls at the same time..no i didn't yet..though i could..
if i wanted to ya know. Khair..i meant to say..sure not every man prefer two women in bed..but would love to have it..if it is given a chance. If you can't gulp this fact then..you are very innocent.