I don’t get them
Why do people have them?
Isn’t one definition of marriage being committed to one person
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I don't get them
Why do people have them?
Isn't one definition of marriage being committed to** one** person
Not necessarily. Take for example, polygamy ...which although it may not happen as often...is a commitment to more than one person.
Why do people have them? I don't think it's a common arrangement......but here's my guess: Perhaps the indivudals in such a marriage feel that the limitations of monogamy may result in resentment toward their partner and the relationship......so they allow an open marriage in which they can have temporary affairs that may be more based upon sex as opposed to something more substantial. They may argue that what they have for their spouse is "love"...and what they have with others is just time-pass....and use this point as a justification. Sort of like "you're my rock..the one person I can't live without......and everyone else is just on the side." Perhaps they might argue that this arragement leaves them feeling more relaxed/happy.....which in turn strenghtens their marriage. Could even say that an open marriage reflects their understanding of human nature (in terms of temptations, etc)....and that this acceptance leads to greater tolerance of one another.
Of course you can negate each of the above points....but they're just my guesses.
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or maybe they just have weak personalities, and use the marriage to put up an image for the world, while living their lives as they please.
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hubby and I are very open and honest with each other. That’s an open marriage…right? 
in all seriousness, I once read in another advice column about a man who pressured his wife into swinging/open marriage..well turns out once it happened, he started losing respect for her and wanted to divroce..he even confessed to “I feel like punching her in the face because she enjoyed the other encounters.” and this is from so-called “liberal white men”
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^lol, yes that’s a halal open marriage:cb:
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or maybe they just have weak personalities, and use the marriage to put up an image for the world, while living their lives as they please.
Again..I'm not trying to justify such a marriage as it's an arrangement I don't support. However, proponents of such a marriage may argue that it is not a weak personality....but rather it takes emotional strength to see your spouse with another person and to allow it. You may fire back by saying that it would take more emotional strength to avoid the temptation and not get involved in other entanglements. But again...proponents may argue in such a manner.
It's not necessarily so that they're creating a false impage of their marriage for the world because some of them might let their friends know that they have an open marriage arrangment....they may not keep it a secret from everyone. As for the idea of "living their lives as they please"...........well behind closed doors we all live our lives as we please, don't we? You may have a couple....who does not have an open marriage....who is not having an extramarital affair......who gives the world the impression that they have a happy marriage......but behind closed doors there could be verbal/physical abuse taking on and the relationship could be in a very dysfunctional state.
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^true
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well polygamy is like an open marriage for men only and you guys are all for that...and i guess now that we are all about equality women can do the same?
and dont tell me how the man is also taking responsibilities in polygamy...thats not what men look forward to...so the responsibility aspect is just to make it look justified. pass...give charity!
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^ You make fun of islam, eh? 
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i’m not even gonna bother 
if you’re a troll, you fail at it, if you think you’re some enlightened wannabe…you still fail 
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Where do you see Islam in my post. Stay on topic.
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or neither one of what you think. the forums about giving opinions right? i just gave mine (whether its ignorant or enlightened)…if it offends you u can present a counter argument…if u dont care for it like you claim then ignore it n i promise the forum police cant make you reply.
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how old are you? hehe
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35
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Where do you see Islam in my post. Stay on topic.
I was talking to the post above mine... :(
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its the internet...dont get personal..it doesnt matter..if you dnt like something you read or think is ridiculous..you have the power to ignore.
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yes because everyone here abides by every single rule of islam. y is it that men nowadays only want to adhere to polygamy as the only pillar of islam..they become super defensive about it but if you ask em how important is it to pray five times a day then thats between God and them?
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It makes at least some sense to me...you get to have your one source of emotional support that you can always go back home to and you also don't have to eat the same pizza every day. And more important than that, you can't be hurt due to expectations of commitment not being met because they don't exist in the first place.
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But making it a personal matter doesn’t mean they are rejecting it, now does it? 
You seem to be unhappy with the polygamy clause of Islam, am I right?
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all i said was i see open marriage as sort of a polygamy...minus the responsibility part. no trolling, no enlightenment, and no questioning islam..i just expressed an opinion like we're allowed to do here. if i need polygamy in islam explained and justified to me i'll contact an imam in my closest masjid thanks.