I desperately need help guys! IF you can’t help…don’t reply! No judgements and batamizi pls.
I have been married more for few months now, however since the first day I am not happy! I don’t know how else to say this but whenever my husband makes love to me I am not satisfied. He is done before I am and I feel like im left in the middle. In the beginning I thought maybe this problem will get better with time but it’s been months now! I don’t know how and who to share this problem with I am too embarrassed. I am so depressed because of this, I can’t concentrate on anything. Am I too horrible of a person to have expectations of being physically satisfied? I have never expressed my feelings to my hubby…I really don’t want to make any complications in between us. I don’t know the problem is me or him. He’s the first and last man of my life.
I really don’t know how to handle this. Do I have to just accept this and kill all my needs for all my life?
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You can talk to him and he will probably just make some alterations. You guys just need to spend more time with foreplay so you can climax together. There are instructional books and videos on this stuff.
Just talk to him.
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Well heres sex advice from a married person:
talk to him.
How is the relationship otherwise? how does he treat you?
I firmly believe (no pun intended) that as long as the relationship itself is healthy...sex will follow. If otherwise he treats you well and you're happy with him.....this is nothing that comunication and practice won't fix.
most of the times woman do not attain 'it' ..some for months some for years and some never... u need to see some talk shows or do some google research about it... u may wanna talk to your family doctor about it and u will be surprised to know how common it is....since it is embarrassing thats y nobody talks about it openly...
i dont know what to suggest you ....
oh btw i m married as well and no 'size' has nothing to do about 'it' :D
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no one can help u cept ure man... and nothing will help cept talking to him. you may feel as if its a big thing but sexual female satisfaction, or the lack of, is quite common in most relationships, not cuz there is a lack of love or whatever, its cuz .. women just cant orgasm as fast as men can...
tell him to take things slow .. lots of foreplay.. and build it up .. no wham bham thank u maam.
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no one can help u cept ure man... and nothing will help cept talking to him. you may feel as if its a big thing but sexual female satisfaction, or the lack of, is quite common in most relationships, not cuz there is a lack of love or whatever, its cuz .. women just cant orgasm as fast as men can...
tell him to take things slow .. lots of foreplay.. and build it up .. no wham bham thank u maam.
yeah..and those damn idiot hollywood/bollywood movies with eehh ooh aaaahhh within 30secs. are soooo misleading....
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what da, bolly movies have that now
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since when do we take bolly/holly movies as truth?
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LMAO!!!
Ee oo aa.
LOL
I desperately need help guys! IF you can’t help…don’t reply! No judgements and batamizi pls. I have been married more for few months now, however since the first day I am not happy! I don’t know how else to say this but whenever my husband makes love to me I am not satisfied. He is done before I am and I feel like im left in the middle. In the beginning I thought maybe this problem will get better with time but it’s been months now! I don’t know how and who to share this problem with I am too embarrassed. I am so depressed because of this, I can’t concentrate on anything. Am I too horrible of a person to have expectations of being physically satisfied? I have never expressed my feelings to my hubby…I really don’t want to make any complications in between us. I don’t know the problem is me or him. He’s the first and last man of my life. I really don’t know how to handle this. Do I have to just accept this and kill all my needs for all my life?
Of course not. You have every right to be physically satisfied by your husband
i did.. i was naive 
ok things MAY help is strecthing…foreplay.. keagal (spelling?) …
but i dont understand how speaking to your husband would help? like who would like to know in the begining days of his marriage that his wife is not enjoying ‘his efforts’?
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I don't think lack of satisfaction by a woman should be taken lightly by saying, oh it happens so don't worry.
Being married the woman has all the right to be satisfied...at least once at a time. Nymphomaniac is not what I am talking about.
Communication in polite way is the best option for OP.
Ask him if he was satisfied, or did I satisfy you like the way you wanted?
He probably will ask you too in return or at least will think in this direction.
Prolong the time as much as possible. Relieve your tension of getting the satisfaction.
Go with the flow slowly and once your mind is relaxed, it will be easier to get the orgasm.
Nothing wrong about reading some informations. Nothing wrong in thinking about sexual stuff in this regard.
I hope he is attractive enough or has no problem on his own which could be the reason. Do you find him attractive at all?
In many situation, in extreme cases, divorce is justified. If kids are involved then it could be a problem in divorce.
I do hope it is genuine story by the way and not just trolling.
**[note]jimmy you are so smart.
And handsome too.
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No one is talking dirty here.
Well except you, maybe.
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Jimmy.....if u cant help, then dont reply.
It IS a problem that happens and it doesnt help to demean somenoe for aksing about it.
If both are virgins, its normal to um…not get it right so to speak, esp in the first few weeks/months.
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LOL
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Rabbi, communicate and tell your husband about this. If you dont tell him, he will never know...meaning he will never care about it either.
The thing is, men do care about their wives and fulfilling their needs. Most of the time, we dont speak up enough to say something about it.
You dont know how he will react, he may actually try to make an effort to please you.
Good luck!
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Youse are supposed to tell me if you remove my comment(s).
Is Niksik the only Mod who knows how to do her job.
Please note, there is no question mark at the end of that sentence. :)
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Foreplay :) Its very common. Girls just take more time. He needs to make sure you are satisfied too... Not just turn around and sleep when he is done.
You need to talk to him.. Maybe he doesn't know. If you won't tell him, he won't understand. YOU HAVE TO TELL GUYS... nothing to be ashamed of. It'll bring you two closer if anything.