I despise pity people. Our culture produces more pity women than any other. Keep your girls dependent, lowly educated, and rush to marriage... you people are pathetic.
Oye bandar -- come over here and I'll show you quite the opposite of what your seeing/saying.
Dont pity anyone honey - hum kaun se perfect hai?
Anywhoo - before Sara gets mad; I think Sara_Pathan you can do two things; talk to him about it clearly and say that you're not ready for it or you can actually see it as Allah mian's will; maybe Allah mian is helping push you along a bit.