Totally agree. Instead of focusing on how many uncles and aunties are doctors or which village their grandad comes from ppl should focus on the basics of compatibility. The hijab/no hijab issue, does he have a problem with wife wearing western style clothes, as well as future living arrangements, will he ‘allow’ u to work or study after marriage, what other things does he expect from u etc are major things. I really can’t understand why some ppl go into marriage so blindly just hoping that differences of opinions or situations will just somehow resolve themselves..