Wat goes on in the mind of a 40+ yr old unmarried guy?
I know this desi guy for around 5-6 yrs now. He’s well educated, established, earns a hell lot of money, smart, good looking, blah blah blah but just dun wanna get married and he himself dunno the reason, @least that’s wat he claims.
in past 10 years he went back to pakistan couple of times, twice he got engaged over there and broken both the engagements in less then 2 months. He even found some girl whom she loved and when she asked him 2 marry he panicked and broken off with her, she’s now happily settled in her own life. And no he’s not a person with infidelity issues, he belongs to a very respectable family which is also well known. Other then the girl he loved whom he only met 3 times he never had any girl friends in past 10 yrs and he’s not GAY ( dun ask how I know that :halo: )
He totally understands and acknowledges the fact that he can’t spend the rest of his life like this and he dun wanna be alone any more but the getting married part frightens the hell out of him. His younger siblings are already married and hv kids of their own
My guess is that may b he got use 2 his life style and is afraid that he won’t b able to cope up with sharing his life with any 1.
wat might b the other reasons and how can he b helped? he’s such a good friend of mine that I feel miserable 4 him
p.s. and haan ladies can also give their input if it’s beyond bashing the guy himself
p.s.2. and no it’s not a thread abt a guy n girl can never b friends, please spare me the compliments
What goes in the mind of 40+ and unmarried? Who knows. Will ask and answer specifically! :)
However, not being married for a while may be due to many reasons including
Being too rigid in his ways.
Not being able to find a good match
Being too involved with day to day life
Being psychologically afraid of being commited to one person or has some psych disease- some people love the single life being alone at home and talk to the walls...!!
Some prior mishaps
Remembering someone from past
He is seeing someone secretively and does not feel the need to get married
If not gay then bisexual...you said you know! I am iching to know how do you know. j/k.:D
He may surprise you and get married in next few months
Yea its more about getting use to a way of life . Few people like change and few don't . In younger age its easy to change but after that when you are independent and can make your own decisions , no one wants to change .
But bottom line is , its his own personal choice and everyone should respect it . Let him enjoy the life , as he wants .
I think after a certain age...sharing your life with someone else begins to scare the crap out of people...(pardon the French).
So, this wonderful life of his that he has down to science...a woman can potentially walk in and destroy it within 2.5 seconds (the wrong woman of course). This completely uncontrollable variable seems like too much of a risk for some men/women to take after a certain point.
At the age of 25...you have nothing to lose because you really dont have anything yet. At the age of 40, he has a house, car, assets, career, investments, etc. He has everything to lose. The thought of putting your entire life's hard work in a potential stranger's hands would rattle me at 40 too.
Usually people like that wait to meet the right person and then things just fall in place. Khud hi dimagh thikanay ajayenge. Fikar not.
I think after a certain age...sharing your life with someone else begins to scare the crap out of people...(pardon the French).
So, this wonderful life of his that he has down to science...a woman can potentially walk in and destroy it within 2.5 seconds (the wrong woman of course). This completely uncontrollable variable seems like too much of a risk for some men/women to take after a certain point.
*At the age of 25...you have nothing to lose because you really dont have anything yet. At the age of 40, he has a house, car, assets, career, investments, etc. He has everything to lose. The thought of putting your entire life's hard work in a potential stranger's hands would rattle me at 40 too. *
Usually people like that wait to meet the right person and then things just fall in place. Khud hi dimagh thikanay ajayenge. Fikar not.
Smart. And true...I know a divorcee, close to 40, who was thinking about getting married again. What she was hesitant about was exactly this. She had worked hard for everything she had and had learned to lived independently...and the possibility of ending up with someone with whom it didnt work out with and then losing what she had worked so hard with scared her.
I know how you know. Its our secret knowing that 40 year old virgin Oops
Unmarried guy :k: Please cut that word with a red ball pen like Xvirgin**X **
Ghalti se mistake ho gaya
Apologies , My mistake Okey comming back I think tha guy is at ease with next door cafe where he can enjoy coffee , tea and company also cans of pepsi, coke and other energy drinks by droping few coins in that dispensing machine. Any person with sincere heart will not advise him to bring that dispensing machine home for refreshing drinks, which he already enjoying without any overhead costs.
He might be impotent or some other kind of psychological hangup or physical deformity or dysfunction which only he knows or his doctor knows and he does not want to share it with everybody.
What goes in the mind of 40+ and unmarried? Who knows. Will ask and answer specifically! :)
However, not being married for a while may be due to many reasons including
Being too rigid in his ways.
Not being able to find a good match
Being too involved with day to day life
Being psychologically afraid of being commited to one person or has some psych disease- some people love the single life being alone at home and talk to the walls...!!
Some prior mishaps
Remembering someone from past
He is seeing someone secretively and does not feel the need to get married
If not gay then bisexual...you said you know! I am iching to know how do you know. j/k.:D
He may surprise you and get married in next few months
and he himself dunno the reason, @least that’s wat he claims.
( dun ask how I know that :halo: )
Okey comming back I think tha guy is at ease with next door cafe where he can enjoy coffee , tea and company also cans of pepsi, coke and other energy drinks by droping few coins in that dispensing machine. Any person with sincere heart will not advise him to bring that dispensing machine home for refreshing drinks, which he already enjoying without any overhead costs.
