How seriously do you take online relationships…im talking about freindships and acquaintances etc…
For me, if i have had enough interaction with someone, I consider them just as much a friend as I would consider some of my “real world” friends (friends i’ve made in college).
Is there still even a “stigma” attached to having friends online? do people sitll think its weird? Is it becoming normal now to meet friends online? is there a such thing as taking them too seriously?
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I think its fine. I think most healthy people do not, though.
Its not exactly good that things are moving more to an internet interface. You lose that face-to-face contact with people.
At least here, people are becoming more and more reclusive, especially with these blackberries and iphones. Even when you're walking around, or out and about, people have their noses into their phones surfing the net or responding to emails or texting, that they dont even look up and talk to people.
It's really beginning to make people less and less interactive with one another and that means people behave more and more crappy with one another.
Sometimes you meet good people online, sometimes you do not. It gets really hard to learn about a person's character. In real life, at least you can find out about that person's reputation and learn about the kind of people they socialize with. You can't even see that online. So you could be talking to a crazy person and have no clue.
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I think now its pretty much normal . It is just like meeting some one at school or work . But like other norms of the society an odd relationship will stay like that i.e. an elder man with young child . So only medium has changed but not the society and culture that surrounds it .
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depends, I consider azkar and muzna among very close friends and I have met her only once and him maybe 3 times, except when we were kids in the same school where we dont really remember each other from but i do recall beating up someone named azkar once. sheeda is someone I have never met in person, but we have known each other for 15 years and seen each other through good and bad times. others too like the missing adrasteia who has seen me at some event but that has been the extent of our contact outside GS. Muniya who I have never met, but have a very strong bond with.
no stigma, and i think its less and less in general.
for me it was not a huge deal because 15 years ago azkar, sheeda and I were pals along with some other ppl and, u know many ppl travelled to see others, hung out at meet ups etc etc. much of it limited to immediate geographic areas because being broke ass college students we could not go and see ppl on the other coast :D
varies i would say.
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Ok, so sheeda cannot possibly be 5abi, because I remember that dude being some college unmarried wimp who was keen on hitting on all the girls.
Definitely not of the uncle crowd.
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ummm maybe he is hiding from you but thats may homie the wizard of westwood
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Besides 2 or 3 people, I wouldn't take anyone too seriously. I don't care enough, it's not a friendship that's worth maintaining to me.
That's probably a bad thing, who knows.
But that doesn't mean I would go around intentionally hurting people.
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Anonymous posting is fun, aishaa. I agree, its healthy to keep a distance. I don't know if I am setting myself up for a disaster by getting friendly with folks here.
One day I will be dead and buried in some forest by a crazy person I met here.
Anonymous posting is fun, aishaa. I agree, its healthy to keep a distance. I don't know if I am setting myself up for a disaster by getting friendly with folks here.
One day I will be dead and buried in some forest by a crazy person I met here.
Yeah they are crazy. You're way too cool for this forum, go annoy some real people.
Get into some REAL fights :D
Real life drama is so much better, you have nooo idea
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I have experienced it and no thanks, I dont need that headache.
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Rule number one of online relationships : DO NOT TRUST
Unless you know someone personally .
kitnay zakham milnay k baad yeh akwal-e-zareeh zahoor-e-pazeer howa hai?
nami pai or un k bongay suggestion ko waki koe serious mut leya keray. werna un ka computer jal jayea ga. 
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I really have respect for a lot of ladies and gents here. Having offline chit-chat with them won't be a bad idea, as long as they are males. My wife will not take the other scenario very well and how she thinks about me is all important to me.
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I’ve made some good friends on GS over the past year..and I trust them although I know it’s a crazy world on the interweb but then there are people in real world who you trust to be your friends and they a deceptive, right? 
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Am I weird then??
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I have too many friends outside of GS. I do not feel the need to add to that list by taking GS-friendship to the off-line world. I have a few friends left on GS. Most have stopped posting or may be switched to new ID's which I am not aware of.
I like to quote sara516 on that, No one could have said it better she said “at GS we are a big dysfunction family”
Now Jimmy adds “ppl who are part of this dysfunctional family and don’t see it are delusional”
ps: x2 gud job 
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Its easy to make friends on the net an so its easy to let them goo to.
I have always found something "missing" from net friendship but again most it depends on both persons. Because net friends are mostly "out of sight" , they are easy to go "out of mind" too.
