Do you call your online friends, real friends, even if you’ve never seen them?
It’s hard for me to believe that a person is your real friend if you haven’t seen him/her.
I have an online friend who happens to be a female, I showed her my photo but she refused to show her’s because she says she is fat and ugly. This, according to her, is the only reason.
I have told her it doesn’t matter to me what she looks like, but she refused.
I don’t have a heart to disconnect with her, but I don’t even want to continue being friends with her without knowing who she really is.
Maybe she saw your pic and didn't like it.. and its her way of telling you that she doesn't want to be your friend anymore or share anything personal.. You know.. it happens :)
Nope, she said that before I showed my pic to her.
And if she didn't like my pic, she wouldn't insist continuation of friendship as it is.
Hmm, in real life, do you discontinue (platonic) friendship with someone because you find that person unattractive? You wouldn't.
Now if you don't see it as a platonic friendship..and if you're hoping that it will lead to something more than that...in that case physical appearance would matter more.
So, basically....you don't see this girl as "just" a friend.
I treat "online" friends the way I would real life friends. I have online acquaintances that I talk to when I want to, or just for fun, just like in real life.....
Do you intend to meet this girl? Does it really matter what she looks like to you?
Maybe you want more from this friendship and she doesn't.
How can I want more if I know she is a fat, not so beautiful woman?
Why is this friendship important to you?
We have been exchanging messages and we both like it, she doesn't want me to stop and I don't want to stop either.
It's just that I want to re-assure to myself that she is a real friend rather than an anonymous online friend which as i said before is not a real friendship for me.
Share your expectations with her that you think of her as a real friend and value her views and time that she takes out to converse with you.
Just be balanced in the friendship. Online friendships are very shaky. Don't depend on this friendship, especially when you do not know much about her.
But you DO care what she looks like, otherwise you wouldn't have brought it up.
I'm not sure about meeting, but I want her to be as real as possible.
So, in order for her to seem more "real" to you....you feel that you should be able to attach a face to your online communication then? It's ALSO possible that a picture may not be a true representation of the individual. It's ALSO possible that the picture is real...but the personality that comes with it is not so true.
When I say I don't care what she looks like, I mean I don't care if she is beautiful or ugly. I just want to treat her as plain friend and want to see her too.
I'm not sure if I sound confused, please tell me if I am :)
It's just that I want to re-assure to myself that she is a real friend rather than an anonymous online friend which as i said before is not a real friendship for me.
You want reassurance that she's a "real" friend...and the only way to prove that is for you to see a picture (which may not even be of her)?
You may have met people in real life....whom you've had face-to-face interactions with....whom you consider "friends".....and they turn out to be insincere. Did seeing what they look like guarantee their sincerity?
You claim that you don't have a romantic interest her and this is based upon her telling you that she's fat and unattractive. So, it's just based upon HER words/description of what she looks like. Now....what if she's being her own worst critic...and is not even half as bad as she has made herself out to be?
Also, I wonder if she herself only sees you as just a friend....or something a wee bit more than that?
friendship works where both parties are satisfied with each others behaviour and yes it is worth it if u find a good person ( good meaning person of your own values )
A report I read sometime back , and according to that most of online relationships fail . So try not to get into any relationship online . Friendship is fine , as long as it stays like that .
I made so many friends online that are in real life now. I dont go to the forums where we became friends and some of them are not even on facebook. We meet once in a while and stay connected through cell phone.
