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Listen to guys on here who've warned you. This is low life and it's scary how many guys do it.
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weird...
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I said it before and I'll say it again ...
Some women do this, some men do this, some couples both individually do this without hiding it from each other and whether they are married or not ... it depends on the mindset of the two who are involved. It is not ethical behaviour to flirt even with the intended person to marry until marriage. But there is a fine line when passing compliments.
I would never justify this behaviour but one way to make him realise what he is doing is to do the same thing to teach him a lesson. Of course there are repurcussions if you go down this route, such as if a third person should find out that this is being done by you ... etc or if it bears on your reputation in the long run, but if somehow, may be if you create a dummy facebook man who flirts with you and you back to him, but really it is you all along then it might get an important message through to him.
This might scare him away though and if you are more hoping to make the possible marriage work rather than teach him a lesson then you should not do it.
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alone to have the idea and waste his time chasing random girls online but then call it "it's just nothing". the guy has some serious issues.
listen to Shak09, he seems to be a very good wakeel!
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If you really love him, talk to him first. That would be my first approach to this. Make it clear to him that you're not a fool (he thinks you are which is why he is feeding you these lines) and:
Its not normal male behavior
Its not acceptable
It cannot continue
There is no double standard where a guy can do it and a girl cannot. Tell him if this is the kind of marriage he wants where you can flirt with as many men as you wish later on...then you're not interested.
Talk to him and tell him point blank that you should be his first priority. If he cannot mend his ways, he needs to think about what he wants...does he still want to get some flirting and partying out of his system or does he want be in a serious relationship?
The reality is, it all starts with a bit of harmless flirting. If he is okay stepping outside the boundaries of your relationship to flirt with other women and entertain them...he can also do much more.
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I said that first. 
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is this fiance an arranged find?
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why all the girls replying here?? 
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oopps didn't catch the "males only" part of her comment
well us females might have something to say too :p zip
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Who has time to send messages to random girls on fb 
?? I thought only creepy guys from nathuwala did such things!
So:
- He’s got way too much time on his hands
- I’m assuming he can’t be a player in reality therefore, he’s trying to be a cyber player (lame), which means you have nothing to be worried about.
I do think you should talk to him about his problem and explain to him how pathetic it is.
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Tell him that you also wan try the harmless fun. eik din main isaan k putter ban jayee ga
PS: In case he does not become insaan k putter, I am available for harmless fun :D
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Okay seriously don't let him convince you that this is "normal behaviour"...it isn't. Most girls, me included, wouldn't expect their fiances to flirt with random girls on facebook or otherwise.
Sit down and just tell him that it bothers you and that it's unacceptable behaviour in your eyes.
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...........purteh sad.......... hope everythin gets bettah for you
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Okay seriously don't let him convince you that this is "normal behaviour"...it isn't. Most girls, me included, wouldn't expect their fiances to flirt with random girls on facebook or otherwise.
Sit down and just tell him that it bothers you and that it's unacceptable behaviour in your eyes.
*Agreed *
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If you really love him, talk to him first. That would be my first approach to this. Make it clear to him that you're not a fool (he thinks you are which is why he is feeding you these lines) and:
Its not normal male behavior Its not acceptable It cannot continue There is no double standard where a guy can do it and a girl cannot. Tell him if this is the kind of marriage he wants where you can flirt with as many men as you wish later on...then you're not interested.
Talk to him and tell him point blank that you should be his first priority. If he cannot mend his ways, he needs to think about what he wants...does he still want to get some flirting and partying out of his system or does he want be in a serious relationship?
The reality is, it all starts with a bit of harmless flirting. If he is okay stepping outside the boundaries of your relationship to flirt with other women and entertain them...he can also do much more.
I agree, say IT to his face
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Definitely not normal. I'm a pretty liberal guy and even my gorey friends wouldn't try to pull this crap on their girlfriends because she would flip out.
Keep in mind this is a forum and people here do not know you and can only assess the situation based on what you tell them. Talk to your fiance first. Let him know he can't do this. I would also seriously consider how committed he seems. Again, talk it out first. Don't just break it off cold turkey.
Lastly, IMO, the kind of guys who creep girls' pictures are usually already in the "friend zone" or are unlikely to get dates anyways. Women can probably attest to the fact that random messages from guys they don't know usually get ignored. So, unless he's flirting with women he knows, it's unlikely anything has happened. Even chatting wise.
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This is not normal "male" behavior. Men are capable of being decent human beings. Stop making excuses for the losers.
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^thank you.
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Yea totally agree with everyone here. That is not normal behaviour especially if he is flirting with random girls (super creepy).
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to the men in the audience: it isn't just a weird reaction to getting "tied down" as some people say right? like having cold feet about such a big decision like marriage so he's getting all this flirting with pretty girls out of his system now so he won't do it after marriage.
wouldn't take any drastic, impulsive decisions yet, don't call off the wedding, stay calm, think long and hard before you discuss about this issue with him again. He seemed like a decent guy to you when you got engaged to him. hope the wedding isn't in a couple weeks though.