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11) Do NOT check out other guys on ur wedding..IT WILL NOT go down well with ur hubby..lol..as i quickly realised!!
This made me chuckle Rabia. But now i need to hear the full story.
Congratulations on ur wedding and may you be blessed with happiness.
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^ i know loool
thats the best line of advice haha!!
good luck in the future success of your marriage =)
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May Allah subhanatallah bless you with a happy marriage. Aameen.
Thanks for sharing the above pointers.
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Aww, great advice! 
Congrats btw! 
^great advice!
lol at number 11, it can be pretty hard not to sometimes...ive seen so many brides eyeing their devars!
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I am loving the list, thanks 4 the tips.
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SGC made a thread on this already and it was awesome. Lots of good advice-
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/296464-one-piece-advice.html
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some lovely tips... Enjoyed reading!
Why would you even think of checking out other guys on your wedding or any other day for that matter? 
I second what everybody else says.
Enjoy the day and the dress. Don't sweat the stuff that goes wrong (and things will go wrong). I still wish my hair had been different and I'd put my foot down about certain things, but that's ok. I still am married to the best man in the world (after my father), so I win anyway.
And once it's over, pray two rakaat nafil with the hubby and thank Allah.
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since so many of our girls have now become brides, i thought i'd revive this thread and see what they have to share. newly-weds, its all yours!
Most of the advices given here have already covered everything. One thing I took note of was Sara's advice regarding posture. It makes a huge difference in your pictures if you sit straight.
Other than that.
If you can manage the photo shoot before the event starts. Even if you can't get the couple shots at least get the family portraits out of the way. I don't have any family portraits of shadi day because we didn't pay much attention in the start when the photographer was available & later on everyone was so busy during the wedding that I never got to take any individual pictures with my mom & siblings & I don't care much about the stage shots.
As for Walema my family came in late, hence everything started late & then we had to do our potraits while dinner was being served. Because of the pictures me & hubby never got the chance to eat. I still don't know how the walema food tasted. So much for doing all the tasting.
Punctuality is the key to any successful function & I can proudly say that things did go MashaAllah really well except the Walema bit. (You don't have to wait for falan cousin or khala or phoppo to start your nikkah or any ceremony. If they care enough for you they'll be there on time otherwise whatever) Why get the stamp "larki walay to der say kar rahay thay sub" I'll rather explain to my in laws how relatives were late & hence weren't present than oh why the whole party was late.
Also there is no harm in being a perfectionist & worrying about every single detail till the end. Brides should just have the happy go attitude that if things don't work out at the end its all good because what really matters is you getting married to the love of your life. I am a perfectionist & yes the last days were very stressful for me because no matter what I HAD to sort out all the details, had to know who was wearing what, even what mehndi tray what girl would hold. So many minor details. My decorator even made a joke about how he has never seen a bride like this before. But I guess it worked out in my favor & things couldn't have turned out any better. People who missed my wedding thinking that it was just another cousin or friend getting married in US actually regret their decisions now because of how unexpectedly well the wedding went.
Also as long as you are not disrespectful where you sound selfish its okay to let people know what you want & how you would like things to be. Wedding is your only time when you really get to shine.
Sort trust able people out & assign them things that you won't be able to do while being a bride. In my case it was one of my younger sister & her best friend. They both turned out to be angels for me in the last days.
Whoever is taking care of the food get them to pack dinner for the bride & groom so they can take it to the hotel & eat if the get hungry again & if they do end packing it make sure they don't forget it. That's what happened in my case on shadi day & on walema no one bothered.
Last be organized. Do NOT leave things at the last minute. There is going to be enough things popping out at the last minute. Get everything in order at least 2 weeks before the events.
Good luck :)
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thanks for the advices...here is my advice from my engagement (sorry theres more than 1)
-NO HEAVY DUPATTA...
yes keep the dupatta light! i wanted a high bun dupatta thing but after 15 minutes in the hall....it slid down pulling my bangs and everything back, and it looked bad...so keep dupatta light, once you sit down no one can see the back of your dupatta anyways...it will feel 10x more comfortable .plus if the outfit is heavy it should balance with a lighter dupatta (i think).
- I DON'T RECOMMEND DOING A NAME SEATING CHART!!!
people think that this will make it easier for guests to sit...NOT!! maybe in a gora wedding, but not with desi's auntys and uncles care less where they will be seated, if they don't like where they are sitting...damn right they are gonna switch their seat/tables whether you like it or not, aur plus afterwards they are gonna be like...kaha bithadiya...itni door table tha stage se...dulhan nazar hi nahi aayi. They think they're far from the stage/food cause we put them there on purpose (even though they may have switched!). let them come and comfortably sit with whoever they want...it should be first come first serve. BUT!! a mistake with open seating is to not have a couple tables in the front "reserved" for the in-laws and close family...that way they are sure to get a seat near the stage, where they should be and not weird people that you don't even know take those seats, leaving the important ones in the bakc...but that should be it..AND make sure the "reserved" tables are all SURROUNDING the stage....so people aren't fighting for the tables right near the stage, and its pretty fair now for everyone else for their seats.
-FIX YOUR PIMPLES!!!
if you have pimples...make sure you do everything you can to make them go away, cause they show up in pictures!! if you want nice close up pictures, it will look bad with pimples..its okay to have tons of acne cause that can be hidden with foundation (cause its flat). Im looking at pictures of my engagement, and the close up ones are nice but you can see those few pimples that didn't go away and gosh i regret it!
-DO NOT LET THE PHOTOGRAPHERS MANIPULATE YOU!!!
I remember before my ceremony my photographer would make me do weird poses that totally was "old schooled" and I didn't like it. but since your soo nervous about the night, you don't even care what type of poses he makes you do and you usually just do whatever he says, so you can get it over with and run back to your bridal suite...but you will regret it later....I sooo wish I had taken some of the poses that I dreamed about...so just tell the guy! he will take them however you want it! Later the photographer (like mine) may just put those "old school" poses picture in your album and you will hate looking at it.
PRACTICE WEARING YOUR NATH BEFORE THE WEDDING!!!
honestly your nath is something, that we don't like style it around everyday like a normal thing....so on your big day (if you are wearing one) it may hurt and feel very uncomfortable....especially if its a screw on or a clip on...so wear your nath for a few hours around the house, (just don't look in the mirror wearing your normal clothes! you'll look weird) if it feels okay to you, then thats good...if it keeps sliding off (if you have a oily nose) then you know you better wear a hell lot of oil control stuff on your nose on the day of.
KEEP SOMEONE IN CHARGE OF BEING IN CHARGE OF THE DAMN DJ!!
** -**If you're like me and music and the entrance songs means alot to you at your wedding...I mean i had my entrance song planned since I was 14!! So I want my music to play the RIGHT ONE and at the RIGHT TIME. I had a retarded dj at my sisters wedding who even though we told him exactly which songs to play, ended up playing his reject movie songs!! I was soo mad! we all depended on him and he never even HAD the songs that we told him to have...so HAVE A BACKUP CD JUST IN CASE!! with all your edited entrance songs and ANOTHER cd with the songs you want to play in the background at your wedding. and then have someone stand next to the dj and cue him when to start playing and what track and exactly what time...I want my entrance song to play at the right time...some dj's that you don't know...may end up being "fake dj's" that don't know what the hell they are doing, so its better to keep someone like a cousin or friend be in charge of what the dj is playing, especially at your most important times like your entrances. You don't want to be almost to the stage, and the DJ starts playing the song. Also TELL your person in charge exactly when they should tell the dj to start playing the song....like how much inside the hall you should be walking when it should start playing, and after exactly which lyrics the music should turn off or switch to a different song.
there may be more, as I remember them I'll post them...other than that, relax and have fun! its your day :)
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these tips really helped! thanks so much for starting this topic! :)
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the last time i revived this thread was october 2009. we've had lots of lovely november, december and january brides since then, so let's hear what you have to share, ladies!
dont ask me what i had to wear for the night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and PLEASE DONT ASK ABOUT MY HONEY MOON.
what did you wear for the wedding night? and how was your honeymoon?
-NAZR UTARWAO
One of the most amazing things for me was getting nazr and how badly it affected me. I woke up the morning after my mehndi, incredibly sick to my stomach, nauseous and dizzy. The mehndi walis were scheduled to come right then and when they arrived, I went downstairs, looking awful I'm sure, cause I couldnt even brush my hair. I sat on the takhat and when they tried to carry on a conversation with me and asked me to sit here or sit there, I couldnt sit still and felt like the room was spinning, so I said "I'm sorry, I just really don't feel well." One of them said, you're the bride, yesterday was your mehndi right? Tum ne nazr nahin utar wayi? When I said no, they called my mom, told her how they take nazr off, and after that my mom took nazr off of me. it was almost like someone had lifted my sickness and I immediately felt better, even though I never took any medicine or anything.
-PLAN WHAT YOU CAN BEFORE
Appoint people you TRUST to help with tasks like decorations you do at home, setting your dupatta, etc. I had a cousin who definitely tried to sabotage things I trusted her with. dont save little tasks for the day of. Try to get things done as soon as you can.
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^ jeez, thats a hateful cousin to have around! as if brides aren't stressed enough!
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I would have to say that make sure that your duppatta is not heavy.. I made the mistake of having such a heavy duppata that I was uncomforable for the first half of my wedding because I was scared even though it is pinned down like crazy it may still fall off. Please make sure you have a duppatta setting before your big day so you can have some idea as to how you will look.. and remember to smile because when you look back at the pictures. it'll bring back the lovely memories!
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Eyelash glue is the best for making the teeka stick to your head