One piece of advice....

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fahrista2: What is the difference between barat and ruksati? do you hav them on same day?

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eat and sleep

simple as that

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yes, barat and rukhsati on the same day.

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hey shay, sumorani plz post ur wedding pics.....
thanku..

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yep, like mano said, SMILE! and look happy! I usually talk alot and even at my wedding, I wouldn't stop, meaning in my wedding video, while im walking into the ballroom/ putting ring on my husband's finger/ cutting cake, you can see me TALKING and it's so embarassing! lol. i wish i had smiled instead. and you have to remember that it's your day, you're the special person there so enjoy yourself! when my hubby and i walked down the aisle, right before we got to the stage, the music stopped and my sis's friend started dholing- to which i broke into this impromptu bhangra dance for like a few seconds, lol. noone was expecting the bride, of all people, to do THAT but everyone started cheering, it was so much fun.. alot of my friends expected me to do it cuz i told them i was just too happy to get married and would dance at my own shaadi! but of course my poor hubby was like oh god.. lol.. and our photog took the pic while it happened and its my fav one from the wedding!

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This is such a great thread, thanks Groovy for starting it.
I will be back reading it through later...

Right now I'm so exhausted from the wedding planning that I need a week away from it phew

Introducing: GS JukeBox !
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i will post wedding pics as soon as i get them. unfortunately, i dont have the professional pics yet and all the relatives that took pics refuse to send them to me (supposedly they are too busy to send me my wedding pics, including my younger brother... lazy) ill post the few pics that i do have so far.

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Aww! This is so much fun to read. Thanks SGC. This is working fine for me since I dun have any older sister. Thanks Y'all.

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^ yes this totally happened to me too... like you know those casual/romantic poses type pictures of bride and groom...where the dulha and dulhan have poses with each other, like one sitting one standing with his/or her arm on the shoulder of the other etc... or dulha having one arm around dulhan...

those were completely ruined for me!!! coz they were done at the end of the night before the rukhsati and infront of other ppl!!! :( sigh...it was so awkward damn!!! not one picture came out even decent because i was so uncomfortable... so make sure you that in the bridal suite, or the hotel room, or in a studio... with just you and your husband or a very close friend for support...coz even with parents in front of you it could feel awkward...

awww... that was really not nice of her, but maybe she did that in ignorance... believe me other brides have had this experience as well...not just you, although i know what you must have felt like....and what could you do, you couldn't fight / argue or even say a gentle no to your MIL's order on the first night as her bahoo!!! so you just obeyed her order out of respect and i think u did the right and the only thing u could do in the circumstances...

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Just remember, your job that day is to glow with joy, to look pretty, to reflect on this wonderful new life you are beginning with this great guy. So when the appetizers don't come out on time, when that girl you hate is wearing something heavier than your outfit, when some other chick has a dupatta on her head and everyone says she looks like the bride, when your SIL says something that annoys you, when your mom won't stop fretting about the food, when it seems like no one is listening to the speeches, when those two aunties that hate each other are sitting next to each other, when the candles go out on one side of your stage, when the flowers seem to be more peach than the pink you requested, when the table linens are not the same fabric you wanted to go with the rug, when your father has a cold, when you realize you forgot to wear one of your rings, when that guy made a snarky comment about the dry kebabs, when the photographer is running late, etc. none of it matters in the long run. Just relax and enjoy the day for what it is. Weddings are rarely perfect; it's what keeps them interesting.

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I think this sums it up nicely! Its far easier said than done, but try your best not to sweat the small stuff and just enjoy yourself! And try to make sure your parents and siblings enjoy themselves too. This is not the day for you or them to be running around stressed out of your minds, get someone else to do the stressing and running so you can make the most of this beautiful day!

The only other thing I will echo is what others have already mentioned --killer dupattas! My dupatta weighed perhaps more than I do! Make sure you try it on beforehand to get the setting perfect and practice walking, sitting etc with it so you dont have yourself a major shock on your wedding day when you realize that your neck is about to snap!

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Hi :) I just have to say this thread and the "Glowing Brides" thread are GENIUS. By far, the best in the whole wedding forum!

Thank you!

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oh wat a useful thread..love all the advices :slight_smile:

I also faced one thing on my nikkah, thats after all rushing to parlour,getting ready,having photoshoot & finally reaching the wedding hall, there while i was waiting in the seperate room (partition) before nikkah, i just felt my hands being so chapped n dry, there was henna & all foundation etc made my hands so dry & look like henna with whitish cracks, which i hate most & then i asked all of my friends, mom n relatives if they have got any handcream with them in their bags, but unfortunately no one had it so had to stay like this :(, & hubby had to hold my hands while taking pics etc so my advice is do keep a nice hand cream in a small bottle or small jar in ur pouch/bag & some fragrant wet tissues too.

  • another thing, paki parlours does not offer applying base/foundation on bride’s arms, its only face’s makeup (i had MADEEHA’S), so i had to call my mom last moment to bring it with her to studio on my photoshoot & i had to rub all the foundation on my arms etc in studio infront of my hubby…so embarrasing :frowning: & he was all like :confused: for wats happening lol

  • do practice for Walking & making poses… really helpful… i think i didnot walk perfectly on my nikkah day (cuz didnt practiced :D), but thanks to the videographer who recorded all that walking scene in slow motion :D, later while watching the video all the family members were like angry for making it slow motion while i was thanking God n the photographer for doing so (in my heart though)

  • don’t put ur face too down (specially if u are healthy like me :frowning: ), it will make ur double chin, better keep face up & only move ur eyes up n down lol…again in slow motion though..very dramatic..

  • divide all the tasks among all family members/cousins/friends etc, make a list of every individual & sms it on their cell phones, so they can keep checking their cell phones to check if everything (all their duties etc) r done or not…believe me really Helpful…since no body forget to take their cell phone along them.

i think thats enough for now, will post some advices soon. Good Luck 2 all

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  • ohh & plz don't eat out if u go to pk from abroad, or u will have a swear stomache like i had on my nikkah :(, so no mcdonalds, no kfc no outside food, & drink only distilled water or boiled water. thats all!
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im not married yet but i wud like to advice something to bride to be.. i was adviced this from a friend n blv me it has worked alot..

make a list of all the things u need before the wedding, at parlour, at photoshot, at hotel (after wed) .. bulkul choti choti chezo ke list bana lene chayae.. it really helps..

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thanks for the tip hon, but the wedding is done! :)
and yeah, i had extensive checklists!

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They are in my blog hun.

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what about ppl who are not allow to see ur blog :(

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hey all u married ppl ur advices r too gud ....but wat should i do my wedding is in dec that was decided a few days ago...sab sei bera prob dont have venue for shadi n valima cant get any in this short time.......no bridal dress how would i get one made within a month or two ??????? my inlaws r so lazy they havent thought about it yet :S no photographer ...hakim sons and st valentines refused .....um shooo tensed meri raatoon ki neendein ur gai hein ....no good tailor as the one with whom i used to get my dresses stiched is so bizi in her own daughter wedding n the clothes she stiched for my sis were ruined .......um totaly gone mad

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Why don't u get ready-made outfits? Some of them are really pretty, it will save u a lot of time. U can get casuals, semi-formals, formals, heavy-formals easily these days. Try Jimmy's maybe they'll capture u're wedding?