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Well we changed the method, but family planning is something that a lot of desi have no idea of .. I know a female get pregnant during the first month of her marriage LOL!
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LOL
It's not new to me coz all my father's side of female cousins got pregnant right after marriage....:)
BTW, family planning is becoming very common in desies too....
While we are on this topic, may I ask a very naive and probably stupid question on wedding night?. What if the bride's period falls on the wedding night. Has this ever happened?. What would it be like for them since it is considered to be a special night in some cultures?
I don't know for sure, but its a valid question ... well I think they ask the girl about the date, if its okay with her or not, I think the bride's mother takes care of this matter! Well if the bride is having her period on her wedding night, then the dude does not get to play ... LOL ... what else can I say with my limited information on such matters.
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It rarely happens because females usually keep track of their periods so mostly parents of the girl probably keep those in mind before setting the date...
limited knowledge? I thot you were married. may be not.
wese ab Funguy yeh assume karenge kay main bhi married hoon…FYI, some unmarried people know more than married ones…: )
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limited knowledge? I thot you were married. may be not.
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I am married..rukshati is next year insahallah ... and I haven't really been to many typical desi marriages .. so i was using my common sense to answer ur question.
what’s this all about desi women? 
They are such a bore and 100% bitc***
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It rarely happens because females usually keep track of their periods so mostly parents of the girl probably keep those in mind before setting the date...
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that sounds sick
ur own limbs dont count
If it is important to you, then you should bring it up. It could also be something your fiance wishes to discuss but is too shy to bring up such topics since it can be considered taboo depending on the type of family she is from.
If you have a comfortable relationship with her, meaning you talk to her about lots of different things, and that level of trust and understanding is there, then I don’t think she will have any problem discussing it. Be tactful though … cause the way you bring it up and discuss it can make all the difference. 
If I were you, I would tell her that I’m affectionate (if that is the case) and that it is important for you to be able to be physically affectionate with your spouse after you are married as it can help bring the two of you closer together. See how she responds and take the conversation further accordingly.
Good luck!
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If I was engaged to someone I probably wouldnt want to discuss anything in detail regarding that subject matter, but thats me.
If you want to know her view on discussing such things, you can always start off by asking her if shes willing to discuss issues that will come up after marriage, regarding closeness,intimacy, or health. I think thats tactful. If she says no, then you have your answer right there, not to go forward.
Man....by the time of marriage...both of u will be craving for sex anyway...so whts the use of discussing it and making the other person tense...she'll think there is something wrong....
so just be spontaneous and may u have a good time....
HAhaha, this cracked me up Saadia
What also happens a lot is that the girls cyclus get’s really messed up bcuz of the pre-marriage stress/tension. So it is very much possible that she gets her period twice in one cyclus. Some girls are also very irregular.
you guys can use condoms initially, and then decide what birth control methods to use afterwards, and at that time, no need to beat around the bush, you're married, and can talk about anything...
And bring LUBE!!!. You can thank me later.
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**Should the couple discuss on the subject about sex before marriage?*
I want to discuss the subject with my fiance before marriage. We never really discussed about it except for once for like 2 minutes. I wanted to know for those who are married or engaged if you discussed about this before marriage. If so, what was the response from your partner? Do you think it is ok to discuss on the subject before marriage? I want us both to be comfortable on the wedding night so I think it is important to discuss it before marriage? What do you all say?
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Forgive my Ignorance but what could be the aim and agenda of this discussion? Would it be to establish sexual compatibility?
matsui, dont be such an elitist. You were one too until that swammi came along.
ok i didnt skim through all the responses-
however, in regards to the first post- I'll admit I don't have any experience in the arena, but I would find it necessary to discuss matters such as that important before marriage.
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ok i didnt skim through all the responses-
however, in regards to the first post- I'll admit I don't have any experience in the arena, but I would find it necessary to discuss matters such as that important before marriage.
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talk all you want, but once the time comes, you won'teven remember your own name :)