Re: One dish system in PAKISTAN
The definition of lavish is:
a : expended or produced in abundance
b : marked by profusion or excess
So realistically the only reason one would want a lavish celebration is to ‘show-off’. You wouldn’t have a lavish ceremony in your 2 bedroom appartment with 5 people showing up. Of course ‘showing-off’ isn’t necessarily a bad thing for some people its natural to want to entertain people and have people say they had so much fun at their wedding and look really stunning at their wedding and the food was great etc, but that is still pretty much showing off.
Everyone is entitled to spend their money and celebrate their wedding day however they want. But unfortunately when such things become ingrained in the culture then you have a problem where everyone feels pressured to comply to those same standards to fit in, be respected, etc. The law is made for everyone; they can hardly push through a law that says: " you only have to have 1 dish if you really can’t afford it and you’re being pressured into having a large wedding because thats what society expects and it’ll look bad on you if you don’t but if you have tons of money then go ahead and have more than one dish".
What rules like this do is set a decent, affordable standard for everyone. They encourage moderation which I think is a much better cultural message to promote than setting a standard of lavish weddings which people then feel forced to outdo or be at par with even when they can’t afford it.
People in my family can certainly afford large weddings but have accepted the law and follow it for the principle of it. I think its a great idea. And for those who really want to continue having lavish weddings they can figure some way to go through with it but at least it won’t be the norm anymore.