captain FT ek advice aap ke liye bhi hain
roman urdu ya to sahee likhey ya na likhey
its a torture to our eyes
and we all know what u can do to torturers in islam ........
lol i thought i was the only one having a heard time reading that...
no.. there is nothing hard to understand about it..
its just a pain in the ass to read. it could be a good thread but seeing an entire thread done in roman urdu is a HUGE TURN OFF.. and i know a lot of guppies dont even bother going thru the thread…
so ya.. silly.
no.. there is nothing hard to understand about it..
its just a pain in the ass to read. it could be a good thread but seeing an entire thread done in roman urdu is a HUGE TURN OFF.. and i know a lot of guppies dont even bother going thru the thread...
so ya.. silly.
i agree completely!!! i skip those posts/threads.
im trying to say from all this is that apko her qadam sirf deen ko madd-e-nazar rakh k uthana chahiye, na keh apne jazbat ko dekhtay hue.
Thats all to say
:)
Very well said chan ji.
Regardless of what message is delivered by HW's one sided story or what justification for her actions HW manufactured to get attention and sympathy from this forum, the bottom line is, both husband and wife committed adultery.
Both are selfish and slave to their ill desires especially when it comes to neglecting their children. One partner can't be blamed more than the other.
Both should try to work this out for the sake of children. Divorce or abandoning children is not an option.
Both should forget the past and forgive each other and ask Allah for his forgiveness as Allah is the most "Beneficient, the Merciful".
no.. there is nothing hard to understand about it..
its just a pain in the ass to read. it could be a good thread but seeing an entire thread done in roman urdu is a HUGE TURN OFF.. and i know a lot of guppies dont even bother going thru the thread...
so ya.. silly.
Aisi bazari baat KHAWATEEN ko zaib nahi deti....
translation:
The punk's lingo in red doesn't suit ladies
BTW, I had no difficulty reading and understanding the thread and even if i did, I would not blame the author for my inability/incapability/ignorance/ etc. etc.
no.. there is nothing hard to understand about it..
its just a pain in the ass to read. it could be a good thread but seeing an entire thread done in roman urdu is a HUGE TURN OFF.. and i know a lot of guppies dont even bother going thru the thread...
so ya.. silly.
Exactly how I feel too. Thanks! Hehe! :)
Aisi bazari baat KHAWATEEN ko zaib nahi deti....
translation:
The punk's lingo in red doesn't suit ladies
It does not suit anyone - ladies and men alike.
sister!
aapko yahan per jitnay bhi log miltay hn, theek ha jesa bhi jo koi apko kuch bhi kehta hai k aesay nahe aesay karo.
lekin aik baat yaad rakhnay wali ye bhi ha keh mian, biwi k darmiyan fasad ko hawa denay wala jehanumi hai ye Allah ka farman bhi hai aur hum sbko bhi ye baat samajhni chahye. yahan is forum pe mojood bohot se logon ne bohot si achi raey bhi di hn aoki situation k hawalay se lekin kabhi kabhi halat aesay bhi ho jatay hn jahan pe soch samajh k qadam rakhna hota ha, bjaey isk k her aik ki advice se confuse honay k.
aur mein aik bhai ki hasiyat se apko ye mashwara deta hun k na app meri baaton me ayen, na is forum k kisi bhi bunday ki baat me. hum to sirf apko mashwara hi de saktay hn.
aap khud hi itni samajhdar hn k app apne bachon ka aur apna mustaqbil khud bnanay k tareeqay samajh sakti hn.
yahan pe apko bohot se logon ne apk shohar k khilaaf bharkaya k ji aesay nahe aesay karo. theek ha apka shohar ghalat ha. lekin apko majboor kerna ya zor de ker koi baat apko kehna jesa k bohot se logon ne apko kaha bhi hai, jo mein ne bhi note kia hai, well it's wrong.
aurat ko Allah ne khulaa ka haq bhi dia hua ha. ab ye apki marzi ha k app kis tarah zindagi guzarna chahti hn. taakeh apkay bachon ka mustaqbil bhi bn jaey aur apki zindagi bhi achi guzar jaey.
lekin aik baat yaad rakhna, k is duniya me aurat k liay bohot ziada kaantay hn aur phool bohot km hn, zindagi ka har qadam bohot soch samajh ker uthana.
isi mein apki aur apk bachon ki behtari hai aur isi tarah apkay bachon ka mustaqbil bhi bn sakta hai.
lekin kisi bhi mord per Islam aur deen ki taalimat k khilaaf koi amal aur koi qadam na uthana.
im trying to say from all this is that apko her qadam sirf deen ko madd-e-nazar rakh k uthana chahiye, na keh apne jazbat ko dekhtay hue.
Thats all to say
:)
Too much urdu... pls translate for a fast read!
It does not suit anyone - ladies and men alike.
Agreed
Thank u for all compliments dear guppies, but that is also one more thing that we can write messages in Roman Urdu in our mobiles and on the other hand, we cannot understand it on this forum.
Well, to some extent may be that it's also the fault of the reader that they could'nt understand urdu bcoz they are very much fond of english, and when u pay most attention to the foreign language instead of ur national language. then such problems do occur.
Anyhow! u are also right that the threads must also be written in english.
but im not the first person to write in roman urdu as u say, i have seen many people writing the messages in urdu.
:(
^if you cared about your national language so much, write in REAL urdu, not this fake westernized urdu. people have problems with it because everyone writes roman urdu in a different way!
lol i cant believe i'm hearing someone tell me writing in Roman Urdu is a sign of being more proud of Urdu than English....next thing ya know we'll have a Pakistani Ataturk fighting to change the script into Romanized Urdu.
Re: One advice to Housewife for her situation!
lol, ditto to the above comments.
i skip roman urdu comments...it gives me a headache trying to read it, even though i'm very fluent in urdu!
well if there would have been an option here for me to write in real urdu then i definitly would write in real urdu but some functions of this site are still not available for me.
so, guzara.....
:)
Gr8 advice Captain.
I loved your all the posts in this thread.
Yes I do agree with you she has to follow the Islam.
As I posted in her thread too that is quran give both option if for any reason a lady don't want to live with the husband then she can go for divorce or compromize and can live with rules after both agreement.
I never said to anyone to go for divorce. As if you noticed she already planned everything and telling in different post. It looks like she is a well planned person. May be she has done that type of things before or very confident and as we say in urdu Chalaak.
What she said may or may not be right. But what she wrote according to that I gave her mashwara. If she lied then she would be responsible to that not the ppl who are giving her mashwara.
Yes I know quran says "jub koi mashawra mangay to sahi mashwara do aur mashwara bhi aik amanat hoti hai" quran also so that "agar kisi kay kahnay pay koi bura amal karay ga to kahnay walay ko bhi us ka hissa milay ga yani bura aur achcha mashwara day ga to achcha hissa milay ga."
I only gave mashwara what she told and I thought right to do.
If I would be her place. I would have tried all sorts of things to get him back no matter what for the sake of children. She can say that children will be okay but this trauma will affect her children for whole of their life.
Yes I do agree with those who said she became jazbati or uncompromised as he has right to marry 3 more gals. If she is leaving him only for marrying a gal then she is very wrong. But if she is leaving him as she said they didn't have any physical relation to her husband for some times or months so yeah for this basis she is allowed to do whatever she want. I think in this case I would say go whatever you want to do.
@ Khuwateen aap ko bura lugta hai to zaroori naheen sub ko bura lugta ho. Khuwah ghalti ho kay na ho. Jinko achchi tarha ya bohat achchi tarha urdu ati hai wo hazaron ghaltion kay bawajood bhi parh aur samajh letay hain.
Kuch logon ko apni language main baat karna pasand hota hai. Unhi main say aik main bhi hoon. GS pay anay kay aik wajah yay bhi hai meray liaay.
Jis tarha aap ko urdu parh kar itni gundi baat hoti hai mujhay waisa to naheen hota per haan english parh kar bheja fry honay lugta hai per koshish karta zaroor hoon jitni samajh aa jaay. Laikin kabhi kisi say shikayat naheen ki kay aay kalon ki aulaadon goron ki zubaan pay yoon shadaan o farhaan na ho. lol
Aap ko naheen samajh ati skip kar dain shikayat kay bajaay jinko parhni hai parhay ga jisko samajh ani hai aay gi.
Mujhay bhi farangi zuban sy sir main dird hota hai kabhi kabhi bheja bhi hilnay lugta hai aur kabhi bayraghbati bhi honi hai aur kabhi likha kuch hota hai aur samjh kuch leta hoon bay dhiyaani say parhnay ki wajah say. Laikin apni marzi jis ki jis zuban ko use karay ussay karnay dena chahyay.
I also agree with those jo kahtay hain Aurton ko to bilkul hi shobha naheen deti ghaleez zuban ya ghatia zuban ya jhoparpatti ki zuban aur mardon ko bhi naheen.
Captain thanks again to remind us what and how to do that.
Mazaq uranay walay kay baray main bhi aap nain zabardast baat kahi hai.
Reality check I love to read your post too. Your post are so real too.
Gr8 Heera bhai! shukria bhai apka bohot bohot ye sb kehnay ka. lekin mein ne hargiz kisi ki tazleel k liay koi baat nahen ki agar kisi ko bura laga ho to muaf ker day.
sirf apni naaqas aqal ka khayaal zaahir kia hai.
:)