Once married whats the appropriate level of intimacy with female friends?

[Reha]

Re: Once married whats the appropriate level of intimacy with female friends?

@Zafra

This one remains intact as if I was single.

As for not giving a damn. Its a valid assessment of how I feel. I have my wife, she is my focus. I worry about her concerns and what bothers her. Why should the affairs of another woman be an issue of my concern, ones I should sort out or give advice upon? There were never any romantic feelings on either of our ends. We have been friends for a long time and this dynamic of pulling back happened when i dated other women. For some reason it hasn’t happened when I got married.

Okay while I understand your feelings and situation - I disagree with how you’re dealing with them. The conversations remain intact as if you were single because she isn’t thinking your marital status would change who you are as a person. You’re still her good friend and she can still count on you. That may not be the wisest approach but its how she’s thinking it seems.

As for the affairs of another woman becoming your concern…you sound cold and harsh. She is your FRIEND. Not another woman. It seems as if you resent her almost and don’t want to have anything more to do with her now that you’re married. When you’re really just friends with someone - its rare that you want to cut ties with people once you’re married. You may back off a bit but I don’t see people changing how they view their friends altogether.

So, there’s more to this than meets the eye buddy.

@Zafra

Boy you women are nosy. The chat application is open so I can speak to my siblings, my work colleagues, my friends, there are a few dozen people who would need to get in touch with me. So I am logged in. Those conversations are also not an incessant level of pings that don’t stop.

Basically you ladies are implying to avoid talking to one woman I should avoid everybody else and who may need to speak to me. That I should change my interactions with a large number of my friends to accommodate the unjustifiable actions of another woman.

Again, its a friend right? Your posts keep calling her another woman - almost like she’s a threat to your marriage. Its just strange.

And as for chatting. I have many chat apps on my phone. Someone messaging me a bazillion times doesn’t mean I am required to respond. I respond when I can and that’s all there is to it.