Redrozez.......in order for a marriage to be considered valid or "jaaiz"....your parents need to get your approval or razamandi. But your parent agreed to the rishta without even asking you........and if you don't consent....then the whole thing doesn't have any value.
But the thing is you can't put all the blame on the parents. What your parents did is wrong.......but YOU are not a choti bachi either. Jab k tumhay pata tha k rishtay ki baat chal rahi hai......to tumhay tab saaf parents se kehna tha k tum us banday nahin shaadi karna chahti. Moon band rakho gi to....how will that solve your problems. Some parents think that "silence" is their daughter's way of saying "yes"...and that's not necessarily true.
Tell your parents you don't want to marry him. If they don't listen...then contact the 37-year-old guy and tell him that you don't want to marry him. If he has any self-respect, he won't push the rishta any further. One one hand in the Parenting forum you read about parents getting "hurt" at the sight of their kids crying/hurting....and then you come to this forum and read about such cases.
okay ya i agreed to it coz i thought my parents looked into the matter thoroughly and it wouldn't be thatttttttttttttt bad....ughh...initailly i said yes but now that i have looked it over i think its not right for me its not what i want...:(
i'll need money to ride the limo! :(
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don't worry...the bull of my bullock cart eats only grass...its cheap...i got 99 pennies...u got 1 cent to make it a Dollar? :D**
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seriously to nahiiN…as RV said u have ur islamic as well as human right to REFUSE to marry someone u do not wish to. i understand that within the family structure u don’t just revolt and ask for ur rights. u can somehow , i’m sure, convince ur parents to abandon this idea to marry yoy to this much older guy. u may talk directly to them and be forceful in ur intentions or have a intermediary in the form of ****an older sister, a cousin, or aeven a friend.
if everything fails, i am sure u can live on ur own. even if u do NOT have job for now, u may get Govt support until u get on ur feet. in extreme situations when u’ve no one to to go to and no money in ur pocket still help is available. anselma house is there for temporary lodging.
i wish it never comes to this but u must know ur options. i pray that ur parents will see ur point and just let thsi go. may Allah help u out of this sticky situation. aameen**
Why would you want to run away!!?!? Listen to what people here are saying!! Stand up for yourself or you will feel sorry for yourself for the rest of your life and there will be no one else to blame!
i have a valid reason!
