Re: Older guy…
Such threads are so depressing
Redrozez…in order for a marriage to be considered valid or “jaaiz”…your parents need to get your approval or razamandi. But your parent agreed to the rishta without even asking you…and if you don’t consent…then the whole thing doesn’t have any value.
But the thing is you can’t put all the blame on the parents. What your parents did is wrong…but YOU are not a choti bachi either. Jab k tumhay pata tha k rishtay ki baat chal rahi hai…to tumhay tab saaf parents se kehna tha k tum us banday nahin shaadi karna chahti. Moon band rakho gi to…how will that solve your problems. Some parents think that “silence” is their daughter’s way of saying “yes”…and that’s not necessarily true.
Tell your parents you don’t want to marry him. If they don’t listen…then contact the 37-year-old guy and tell him that you don’t want to marry him. If he has any self-respect, he won’t push the rishta any further. One one hand in the Parenting forum you read about parents getting “hurt” at the sight of their kids crying/hurting…and then you come to this forum and read about such cases.
okay ya i agreed to it coz i thought my parents looked into the matter thoroughly and it wouldn’t be thatttttttttttttt bad…ughh…initailly i said yes but now that i have looked it over i think its not right for me its not what i want…
