Re: Older guy…
And YOU can give them TONS of examples of people who married OUTSIDE the khaandaan and are happy.
You’re so afraid of your parents giving you examples? Parents do that ALL the time with other things. Have you never heard your parents giving you examples of how some other son/daughter is really smart and does well in studies…or how some other girl is good at taking care of household chores?
You act as though your parents giving you examples is the WORST thing that can happen to you. And if you’re afraid of something that small…if you are that weak…then go ahead and marry the 37-year-old guy…because this complaint of yours sounds a bit silly/childish (sorry to be harsh).
Just complaining about an issue is not going to help. You have every right to refuse this rishta…it’s better than ending up with 1-2 kids and stuck in a miserable marriage. If you parents won’t listen, then tell the 37-year-old man that you don’t want to marry him at all. You do everything in your power to get yourself out of htis situation. Sure, your parents may be mad, they might pressure you, they may resort to emotional blackmail, but you have to remain strong. Your parents are not going to kick you out of the house even if they threaten to do so…they’d be too afraid of “laug kya khain ge” if they kicked you out…and they won’t stay mad at you forever. They might be mad for weeks, maybe months, maybe a year or two…but it won’t be forever. I think one of the problems in such stories is the fear that the parents will remain angry for eternity and I think that in most cases, they eventually cool off.