Re: Older guy…
Actually aaj kal jaahil larkay nahin milte. Usually, you will find educated men. Its all about where you look.
Rishtay Allah miyan ki taraf se atay hein lekin saat saat Allah miyan ne aqal bhi di hai. Kaha hai ke iska istimaal karein.
Listen, when Allah swt gives you the right to say no…if you do NOT utilize it…you are being ungrateful. Because He gave you the power to help yourself and you didnt. This is much much much worse. You could have done something to be happier but you didnt do it. This is being ungrateful.
Girls get a ton of rishtay…if we started marrying out of murawwat and takalluf…then we are done for.
You need to tell your parents a final NO and tell them to look via proper channels.