There is a girl, an ex student, or not a student even, her younger sister was my student but since they both used to come to the college, so this girl, i dont know what her problem is. She is masters now, doing MBA and working in a bank. But she wouldnt stop texting me day and night. It were alright if all she sent was a little chit chat and forwarded messages, she breaks different news as well, like we had a party, this was my first day of job and stuff. I hardly text her back, but she never stops. What disturbs me is when she sends texts like “meri neended urha ke ap khud so rahi hain” and I miss you, I miss you Ma’am, most of the time. I mean even I wouldnt text my husband saying how much i miss him nor does he, and this girl. Well, now what I want here is: I need to correct my behaviour. Now she just called and I didnt pick up. I dont know why do I so shy away. replying via sms might be something else, but I should have picked when she calls, shouldnt I? Please tell me if you ever came across such admirers or whatever im so confused I dont even know how to put it, khair, so how would you deal with such a person? The way I RARELY text her back and almost never pick a call from her should tell her that I avoid her. I dont think I can be more loud than that, or should I be? God Im confused.
yes, this is something draws me mad too. I have had enough with these infatuations you may expect it from teenagers but ofcourse she is not a teenager anymore.
yes, this is something draws me mad too. I have had enough with these infatuations you may expect it from teenagers but ofcourse she is not a teenager anymore.
Then, it seems there's something seriously wrong with her!
Girls can get impressed from their female teachers and can consider them as their role models but this behaviour is waaayyyy more than that. Girls can found to be praising their female teachers and obsessed by them to an extreme limits. But after they graduate, they seem to get on with their lives. But your student seems to be 'holding on' to you. May be she sees you as a mentor, friend, someone to whom she just conveys everything. You may want to clearly tell her that you are too busy to receive her sms and you request her to reduce her sms sent to you. She will understand your point if she is intelligent enough. If she does not, you might need to think about other ways, which I am not too sure of.
How about changing your contact number :D I know this might seem to be a childish suggestion.. But this will give u peace of mind without hurting your student's feelings (whatever kind of feelings she has for you)
Yeah, and then please post her replies, and don’t forget to include all the juicy details, like how the student gazed deeply into your eyes and how she moved her hand forward to touch your hair and then music started playing in the background…
What stupid advice to give to a person. As if things aren’t awkward enough, stupid questions like these would make the situation even worse than they are.
As rolla said:
change your number, or tell her you need to stop calling me, this is inappropriate and crossing all lines. I am not your mother or sister, I am a stranger to you, and this looks highly suspicious and this isn’t “friend” behavior. You need to be very stern when saying this. Some girls are creepy, especially when it comes to having young, female teachers/professors.
Dont tell me to change my number anyway. I cant do that. There are so many official and personal contacts.
Hareem, I can understand the crush thing. It might sound exaggeration but we teachers do face such behaviours and crushes and we know how to deal with them, I mean ignoring and thats it. But I have been ignoring her for a long time, like 2 years plus. I get these unanswered calls from her off and on and regular I miss you and blah blah messages. I feel now its getting on my nerves.
and I miss you, I miss you Ma’am, most of the time. I mean even I wouldnt text my husband saying how much i miss him nor does he, and this girl. Well, now what I want here is: I need to correct my behaviour. Now she just called and I didnt pick up. I dont know why do I so shy away. replying via sms might be something else, but I should have picked when she calls, shouldnt I? Please tell me if you ever came across such admirers or whatever im so confused I dont even know how to put it, khair, so how would you deal with such a person? The way I RARELY text her back and almost never pick a call from her should tell her that I avoid her. I dont think I can be more loud than that, or should I be? God Im confused.
What stupid advice to give to a person. As if things aren’t awkward enough, stupid questions like these would make the situation even worse than they are.