and if he/she is more relgious and you are not, and you dont like them being this way, how would you encourage youself to be more relgious cos obviously thats the way we should be…
i find it weird, im marrying someone soon, and hes great, in most respects, but i dont find him that great looking…i dont know maybe im being shallow…so please guys help me out…and NOT marrying him is not in the question.
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Personality is what will get you through in the long run....when the looks fade away. HOWEVER....it would be foolish to deny that physical attraction is not important in a marriage. Your partner might not be the most good looking person in the world...but at least you should feel an attraction toward them.
About becoming more religious.....try reading about your religions (Internet), read Quran with translation and commentary, and you can even attend lectures at the masjid or halaqas and learn more about Islam. Often times, we need to understand religion first so that our religious pracitices (prayer, fasting, etc) have more purpose, sincerity, etc.
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I think you have right to marry some one you find attractive!!!
I am talking islamically.
Once a women went to prophet and said"yesterday when I saw my husband coming with other men, looking at him I didnt feel proud"
That woman got divorced!!!!
You have every right to marry some one you find attractive!!
BUT
Rights dont fall likes apple from tree. You have to put effort time and energy.
You may lose relation with love ones too.
Honey you are not going to do that. So sussssshhhhhhhh and get married!!!
Re: OK, another question!! but cmon answer it man....:{
I think you have right to marry some one you find attractive!!!
I am talking islamically.
Once a women went to prophet and said"yesterday when I saw my husband coming with other men, looking at him I didnt feel proud"
That woman got divorced!!!!
You have every right to marry some one you find attractive!!
BUT
Rights dont fall likes apple from tree. You have to put effort time and energy.
You may lose relation with love ones too.
Honey you are not going to do that. So sussssshhhhhhhh and get married!!!
I'm impressed, PM. You normally don't make long posts offering thorough advice.
And, it takes time to get used to a marriage. None of us are born knowing how to manage a marriage. And inshAllah she will put the effort and time into making the relationship work. C'mon man, be more encouraging.
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trust me i am......i know i am. and hes told me a millon times and everyone knows it.......
lol dont berate me now, i know i sound stuck up...but hey its what im told!1!
Hmmm, okay.
Many women think their partners are 'just so-so' initially. Gradually, feelings take over and you start finding yourself very very attracted to the man. Few of my friends had arranged marriages where they weren't too pleased with their partners' looks initially but now that's all gone with the wind.
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Hmmm, okay.
Many women think their partners are 'just so-so' initially. Gradually, feelings take over and you start finding yourself very very attracted to the man. Few of my friends had arranged marriages where they weren't too pleased with their partners' looks initially but now that's all gone with the wind.
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Okay, honestly. If not marrying him is outta the question, than stop thinking about it. Jesus Christ, woman. You better start finding him attractive, buy him some clothes that you would like on him, do something, anything
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OK
Would you marry for looks or personality...
would you marry someone more relgious than you,
and if he/she is more relgious and you are not, and you dont like them being this way, how would you encourage youself to be more relgious cos obviously thats the way we should be.....
i find it weird, im marrying someone soon, and hes great, in most respects, but i dont find him that great looking....i dont know maybe im being shallow...so please guys help me out...and NOT marrying him is not in the question.
cheeriosss
I would marry for personality. The man I am dating, he is not the typical American 'handsome dreamer' look, but he is kind and intelligent and every day that I am with him, i see more in him that is beautiful.
Religious? Or Spiritual? I think that differing religiousness is just fine. And I think that if one spouse is more spiritual, than it is his/her responsibility to help the other to become more spiritual.
i think that over time, you'll find the man you are marrying more attractive, if he is kind.
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I would marry for personality over looks BUT wouldnt rule them out completely as factors in my decision making process.
See, there arent many people out there who cant benefit from a trip to the mall and a good salon. I think the most average guy can become a lot more attractive once he finds his style and starts to feel confident about himself. Its in the attitude and how a man carries himself...trust me on this nadz. Ive seen some BOOGLY guys pick up HOT girls and its based solely on their confidence level and how they carry themselves.
As for religion, I would not mind marrying someone more religious then myself and probably would like to become even more closer by watching him and learning from him.
