How much of is it healthy? I sometime feels that I am too obsessed with my daughters. Thank god that they are well behaved kids (probably because of their mom) or I would have spoiled them by now.
Like for instance, when they ask me to buy them something, it hurts me to say no. sp I dont say no. My younger one loves to sleep next to me and I do love her light touch (read it, her kicking me in her sleep), my wife is trying to get her in the habit of sleeping in her room (that she shares with her older sister) so I am definitely not helping my wife here.
Is there anything like controlled spoiling.? I want to do that to them. I want to raise emotionally secured daughters. One day they will marry and leave me and I dont want to regret then that i did not do this or that for them.
It's all healthy TLK. I think your daughters are pretty secure. Don't worry, we'll find them husbands who live next door with a tunnel dug up from our basement to theirs.
As long as one parent sets the harder boundry its okay. My dad royally spoiled his daughers and I love him for it. Not just monetarily but letting us travel and emotionally.
WARNING: sometimes they might use the "my dad is the best man ever" and that is going to royally piss off their husbands but OH WELL.
They know that if i say no to something, they will go to papa and he’ll say yes. I give him the look and tell him we’re meant to be unified…a team… to which he replies “but how can i say no? They’re my dil ke tukray”…
Should i feel bad that i can say no, and he can’t? I’m definitely the tougher parent.
As long as one parent sets the harder boundry its okay.
See that is my problem. If I spoil them then its going to push my wife to become the strict one. She wont be able to shower them with all the unconditional love that she has for them cause now dad is over spoiling the kids and she has to balance the universe.
TLK..... toooo cute!!! I think kids are for spoiling. Just because you spoil them, it doesn't mean they will turn into spoilt brats. As long as you instill values and morals in them, then InshAllah, they will grow up to be wonderful daughters. I am an only daughter (have 3 brothers).... am a typical daddy's girl (hence the name on here).... have always been spoilt by all members of my family.....always got what I want etc etc.... doesn't mean that I grew up to be a spoilt brat. MY parents always taught me right from wrong etc etc and this is key.... this is what stops someone who is "spoilt" from becoming a spoilt brat!!
.....obviously, if the kid's demand is wrong, then you don't (obviously) give in ...i'm talking about general spoiling and not getting walked on by your kids!! :) :)
I've read lots of posts here by yourself and Nikki... and you both definitely seem to have your heads screwed on :)...so I don't think there is a chance your daughters will ever be "too spoilt"....
....really sweet post by the way TLK!!! :)
See that is my problem. If I spoil them then its going to push my wife to become the strict one. She wont be able to shower them with all the unconditional love that she has for them cause now dad is over spoiling the kids and she has to balance the universe.
yes - she will have to be. I think she already is.
You have no idea how unstrict I can be. We dance to nagaara nagaraa nagraara baaja on youtube when you're not around. The older one pretends to be Shahid Kapoor while choti is Kareena...and I'm the evil dad.
awwwww…TLK..I love this thread…me too am a daddy’s girl…I love my dad…he did spoil me…but when I was wrong or too naughty he let me know…but yeah…when mummy said no..it was time to ask papa…and he always says yes sometimes he would join in the fun which mama had said no to
Daddy’s girls We sisters also used to ask dad whenever ammi said no to something we wanted to buy or go in parties.It was fun and now it is fun for Zafi as I am the bad parent
But really its tough because even though I am strict on Huzaifah but oh God he always comes to me buttering mommy mommy I love you and hugs and kisses and everything and I listen to him.I am spoiling him Instead Zafi always goes to dad its tough
look and tell him we’re meant to be unified…a team… to which he replies “but how can i say no? They’re my dil ke tukray”…
sometimes he would join in the fun which mama had said no to 
We sisters also used to ask dad whenever ammi said no to something we wanted to buy or go in parties.It was fun and now it is fun for Zafi as I am the bad parent