hiccup
April 13, 2005, 8:24pm
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Re: Obsessed
PyariCgudia:
^ Mehnaz, isn’t that the whole point. For me, feminism is being able to drive myself the hardest that I can and no guy stopping me, in fact if anything, the male members of my family SUPPORTING me rather than not. Its being able to do what I like to do , which is multi-tasking, without being told … “PCG, you’re a girl, this is too much, you can’t do this”.
Only once ever someone in my life, and that too a woman - my phuphi - told me that I can’t play cricket with the boys. That year I had visited Pakistan I got my period and grew some breasts. Everyone had noticed. So, at my daadi’s house I was told to stay upstairs - I was not even let outside - and not come down because they knew I’d go str8 to my cousins and the neighbors’ boys and play cricket with them.
I was bloody furious. So for me, battling against this narrow thinking is my form of feminism applied to my life. If I was living in Peshawar, it would be a totally different battle in nature. Its all relative to WHO you are, WHERE you are, and WHAT the VALUES are of that area.
Essentially feminism is freedom of choice - what men already have and have always had. But women have perpetually not had.
The funny thing is this: in Muslim countries, women are facing probably the most oppression. And THAT as a feminist irritates me to no bloody extent.
Not perpetually. Women were once equals. It was the rise of Abrahamic faiths ie Christianity and the Church and consequently Islam and Judaism that helped control us by putting us in our place. Islam to a lesser extent. At least we were given the rights to our jism, our children and our land. kinda.