Obsessed Chick

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There has been some anxiety for almost 1 year now between me and this chick where i Operate. She is a Tall, Fine, Smart, Very nice Natured, Turk Muslim Girl.

Since the lovely dude I am; I once or twice enthusiastically talked to her and complimented her of her various attributes. She got happy.

We then on cross daily. She is awefuly goodlooking and so I cant help react a bit different/shy when shes around me. Also Im the busy type so not really the going after girl type.

Earlier one of my colleagues around me told me to ‘ask her’- which she overheard.
But what she didnt hear was that- he was not asking me to directly ‘ask her out’.- It was something else.

Further-on one day i stated a convo with another girl (in her presence), and before I knew it this girl revealed a very very noticebly jealous clear behaviour infront of me- only to know later the big fool she made of herself.
On realiseing that the chick whom i was talking to cooly (since had not attracted towards her) was a a mere work acquaintence.

Ok next day she does another act infront of me, to make up for the silly one she did yesterday. She tried showing what i saw yesterday was not as so and she is not bf.s with anybody.
It also did not go past my notice the bought 2-3 girls who see had behind her like they were checking me while she was talking to somebody infront.

Well, time went on we didnt see each ther for months- but now we do and every time i see her i notice this kind odd anxiety towards - nt being proud (like if shes likes me or wants me to talk to her or ask her out).

But I notice her unconcealeble instant jealous/stressed outness when I talk or to laugh with other girls.

For some reason I also have feelings of insecurity:- Although she is goodlooking and nice natured- I cant ask her out or marry since shes turkish- and think things would work out long term. (family, mixing, cultural diff)

But since she so smart- it seems as though shes returning fire and knows how to hurt me. She chats to various guys sometimes simialr to how I do somtimes, infront of me and I cant help feeling extremly jealous.
I feel jealous because I know those white/whatver dudes shes talking with are out there jsut to USE her for a 1 year or term relation. But shes muslim
and shes a nice girl and i hate it when this happens. I dont want her to get in wrong company ad end up a sad story. I just dont.
Or maybe she is indeed her smart self and only doing it to make me feel bad or force some reaction out of my shynes.

Today she really made me ***$%# by chatting to particular guys.

What do I do. What is going on in the mind of this girl and mine!. She has much ‘girly’ emotions however she is still very intelligent.

Can someone tell me whts going on. I mean Im a normal dude, get attracted to girls. But I dont usually ask girls out.

But I just feel there is also an anxiety between us. I think somtimes i need to be brave and tell her we need to sit down for 5 mins for a chat. (decently).

HELP PLS. I know mummy told me to keep away from Chicks. But Trust me.Its not my fault this time is it c’mon.

Hlpe.Thankyou. And no thids is no self-image booster thread like one of ‘Pak-One’. You just know girls go for anyone thes days.

there are just too many studly studs on GS...

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You sound like a 5th grader. :cb:

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you are in love with her.

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It is time for you to man up and ask her out lol. It is so clear that you are attracted to her and care about her...and you have feelings for her too. Just because she is from other culture is what is stopping you. Would you have done same if she was Pakistani girl?
Why don't you just try chatting up with her as a friend and ease up the tention. It seems like the tension has made it more difficult for you to even talk to her.
P.S. this thread is so cute :D

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I have a headache now. That was too long of a post. Jeez.

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well, can u marry her?
if no then dont waste her time :p

:k:

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uff it was too long :expressionless: but I am used to it considering my blog entries are like this all the time :hehe:

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Nutwer............

You cant marry her...she isnt Pakistani and probably doesnt want to be a second wife since she is so intelligent.

Get over her and move on.

^:omg:

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You have no balls and too much of the siemen is shooting to your head thus making your head go in chakkar. Don't worry about her dating a white dude. You are not her dad. Let her live her life. If she is bold enough to date White men she would have had no problem asking you out IF she really wanted you. The fact is that she is not attracted to your desi pun ways. You are very judgmental and have too many insecurities - something a smart and tall, (lol @ tall) girl like her would not waste time on.

I agree with funguy if shes bold enough to date a white guy she also possess enough boldness to make her intentions with u obvious. maintain a colleageal distance if u don't plan on getting married to her, stay consistent, ur not responsible for her actions.

Either get the balls to ask her out, if you feel that deeply for her, why cant you marry her??? nowadays its not unheard of,

or just move on..........

:hehe: :k:

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Ladies and Gents you are way to harsh to the poor guy. That is just plan mean. Do you not understand this chick is a code word for the effiminate guy in the workplace? Come on gay people deserve to find love too. We should be supporting him and his goal for true love!

These bits make me laugh, it’s like you are asking us do decide whether it’s better for you to use her, or let her be used by a none muslim. You know the relationship can not go anywhere, so even if she does like you stay away.

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i think you both talk in mature manner, and be friend with her, from there you both can take things further or stop see what happens. stop making assumptions. both of you are interested in eachother unless the things are not cleared it will carry on like this.

so instead of being fantasy stud, ask her out be bold and talk this stuff in your mind over.

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Dude you read that much into things AFTER girl dumps you.

Now here she make you jealous, you make her jealous.
what the F are you waiting for?? ask her out.

Thing is some cultures are pretty bold. So us pakis shy away from those girls.
BUT get this.
Once she accept you as her man.. she is going to treat you like a husband even when you are just dating.

Its better then being with Pakistani girls. Where you are dating you and sista wants to keep option open her self and for her family and for chachis and her phophos To find a better(richer) dude.

That security what you look for is only going to come AFTER you occupy the place of his MAN.

Either move to that space or leave her alone.

Or atleast SHUT UP!!

P.M as much as I value your post. Which i know must be the most useful on this thread. As ususal I cant understand most of what you said.

sure.

Sorry bout that, I know it shud have been shorter.

EXACTLY. I didnt mention in my post, but i recently sent her an anomalous email very discreetly and briefly clarifying that, and that she has respect which she should guard from other such guys who are deperate to take it without proper relation. - Wasiey i dont know if she read that yet or not.

Yeh yeh, i agree. Although that revealing ‘American Pakis’ thread has got me thinking of a somwhat U-Turn.

You Prick. Firstly if ‘siemen’ got to my head dont you think i would have rammed som-her by now?! I im know not her dad, but by personality and somewhat islamic duty i dont want her to ruin her chastity and life with some fakeing prick who’ll be with her for 6 months or so and then ‘move on’. When did i say shes ‘dating’ white men. I mentioned that she is very smart.
And Dude recall a fact; MOST girls see it as a rule that the guy should ask them out first.
She is a decent muslim girl from, what ive seen, she hangs with only hijban paki girls.
An dude, honestly your the one who seems the ‘insecure’ one especially from your last sentence.

Now This part is for everybody:

I clearly notcing her ‘mirror’ my behaviour often. Like somtimes when shes around i purposly turn away from girls around me because i know of her past ‘jealous’ unhelped reaction. Then i notice she also turns aways from boys or such oppurtunities and goes towards her girl mates.
But hey Im still Nutwer, i cant help exchanging a few wrds with the buffers once and again and she noticed it- she tried concealing-but i clearly saw the stress she felt.
Then not later , i notice her being somewhat friendlier with some othe colleagues.- good mirroring or tit-for-tat if thats what shes doing. It got to me. They were not worthy guys of her. If any of them were I would be less agitated.

I dont know what this chick wants–does she want a reaction from me? is she making just making me jealous becoz i make her; or is she chatiing to other white colleagues to intentionally play with my head to think i better ask her out as before another does.
Oh in contrasts to all the above is she plainly just looking for any boyfriend. and I shud not give a dman to such a girl and carry on with my work.

Nice one CM mate- gud joke. Atleast like some people dont just view Chicks as objects just to be used then excused to prove your manliness.
Some men prefer the option of patience and respect for women. And patience is the real strength.
Its true I am a caring guy, but If you ever saw me in real-life id trust me you would not dare have the guts to call me effiminate.

Ok guys after this review gimme your final judgements—