Instead of the man’s parents having a problematic relationship with the daughter in law, what about when the woman’s family, especially her siblings, treat the husband with disrespect and speak about him in a taunting manner (all behind his back)? How should the wife negotiate her relationships? What should the husband’s approach be?
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How should the wife negotiate her relationships
negotiate ? She should tell her siblings to **** off ! they should mind their own bloody busniness
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and if the situation.....was opposite would you do the same mr. codey to your siblings?????
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If they are talking behind his back how does he find out? Do they talk in front of his wife? If thats the case and the wife listens to all of it without sticking up for her husband then the guy has more problems than he realises, he needs to build a better relationship with his wife first 
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this is why u shud run away and get married so ur folks dont know who ur spouse is :D
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A few clarifications. The guy is "taunted" because he does not fit the stereotypically desired desi husband role. The siblings are dismissive, taunting him in front of her. She stands up for him but at the same time wants to maintain a civil relationship with her family, despite them not understanding the importance of the matter . Civility did not work and her and her siblings are not on speaking terms. It is an unfortunate situation for all involved. The husband has not given her family reason to treat him this way, aside from things about his situation that he can't change. It is a "love marriage."
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uh oh maybe the "love marriage" part is the problem? Maybe the siblings and the parents thought they would pick someone for their daughter and when that didnt happen they find reasons to put him down?
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The husband seems to be a real gentleman to tolerate taunts by his in-laws.
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in this case, I think if wife beleive its wrong and doesnt like it, then surely she need to give them piece of mind. It seems to me that her response or stature is too weak in her own family, so they ignore her anger. she needs to make it clear that she will not tolerate any unnecessary comments in front of him or on his back in her presence.
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There are several words you could put there you know 
be more specific next time
And yes, if the siblings are younger, whooooop their butts, and make her parents send them back to paindu-stan
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No, her family does not respect her. Phat Balongri the "love marriage" issue ain't the problem :)
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negotiate ? She should tell her siblings to **** off ! they should mind their own bloody busniness
No room to add, This covers it all
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And what if it was your siblings harrassing your wife. Would you tell them to **** off, or would you tell her to put up with it to keep the peace?
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Respect is supposed to be on both sides and if either ends r being stupid then they need to be slapped down for it regardless of whether its the girl or boys side. Plain and simple.
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True but if this situation was the other way around you'd have far more posts advocating that the girl be patient and try her best to not involve her husband as he should not be caught in the middle.
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and a lot of girls just put up with it too, for the sake of their marriage and husbands.
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Wah wah … yani kay yahaN bhee khasam ka hi qasoor hay.
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Aside from the above irrelevancies, does anyone here have feasible advice ?
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The clues you are giving are very vague. The phrase "he does not fit the stereotypically desired desi husband role" needs clarification. What is a "stereotypically desired desi husband role"?
She wants to have a civil relationship with her family. That means she likes her family and feelings must be mutual. So why is her family rejecting him. Do they see her blinded by love and unable to see her husband's shortcomings? Or there are other issues e.g., inheritence??
It seems she is double-minded. It seems she is giving second thoughts to her love-marriage decision.
He is either very cunning and playing a wait-and-see game or is a weak person. An overall gentleman equals "weak person" in a marriage. He needs to take charge of the situation. If he does not, he will loose her love and respect very soon.
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has anyone ever tried to sit down with the sibling or the parents to see exactly what their problem is? Have those things that the siblings said brought up? Talked about? If they dont have any logical reason for why they are disrespecting the husband then the wife needs to tell her siblings that she will not put up with it. But chances are there are reasons why the siblings are saying things about the husband (even though they might not be legit)