actually now that i think about it if you really don't click with his mother and you know he really loves her and is dependant on her and you will definately be living with her than maybe you should rethink it. love doesn't fix everything. a lot of times desi guys choose there families over their wives. a lot of times they will turn into their wife's enemies for the love of there mother sister own family by thinking they are always right and you are always wrong and the one being evil.
maybe i went a little far at the end of my paragraph but you know what i mean right?
maybe you should find someone who is willing to live with you alag away from his family or who has a small family or whose family has women you feel comfortable around not 'weird' around because you pretty much then have to spend your whole life around those people.
dont get into a mess just for 'love' because often times love fades and your stuck in that miserable situation.